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You could always puree the meat and veggies since he seems to like that consistency better...

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Reply: 19 month old staying up all night

I also never put toys in the bed...... but if I want to sleep in a little bit I put a few...

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My nephew had the same problem..... and yes, in his case it was the parents' fault as well...

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Reply: Teething 1 yr molars and really bad diaper rash!

Awwww, poor girl. My son got a rash when his molars came in... and yay, we have another set...

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Reply: switching from bottle to sippy cup

My son didn't have a problem and actually stopped taking the bottle at all when he was 10...

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Potty training

My son isn't two yet, he's about 20 months.... but his daycare teacher asked me if we were...

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This week stinks

I am so ready for this week to be over, so HAPPY FRIDAY. I am a substitute and I had a...

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Reply: How do you juggle it?

My mom actually preferred those hours for the same reason.... True, she only saw my brother...

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Reply: How do you juggle it?

Are you a nurse? My mom had those shifts once upon a time.... she was a nurse back then. It...

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Reply: Religious in law issues

It is extremely difficult to talk with her because she twists everything you say and is so...

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It is extremely difficult to talk with her because she twists everything you say and is so manipulative. She sometimes just flat out lies to get her way. She hears NOTHING when it comes to what my husband or I say about DS. We tell her no don't give him wine and she does it anyway when we aren't looking, we have since learned to watch her like a hawk.

I am a teacher so I have to be very flexible in my work environment, given that... I have to have a structured home to balance out the craziness or I will most likely go insane. I do realize that she is family, but I don't hold her to any other standard that I don't set for my own family as well. I don't believe two or three days notice is unreasonable at all.... my family abides by these same courtesies and it has never been a problem for them.
As much as I dislike her, In the past I have given her plenty of opportunities to spend time with DS and she tells me "no" (which is fine) . I have asked her to babysit many times only to have her cancel on me last minute because "she just doesn't want to anymore" (which was also fine, I always have others on backup). Since she won't abide by what we say when it comes to DS..... she is no longer allowed to be alone with him or babysit for us. We just can't trust her because she insists on doing things the way she wants to do them and as you have read, some of them are toxic.
As much as I would like to sit her down and talk with her as a family (again)..... she just doesn't hear us, therapy in the past has not worked.... when her "true colors" were starting to be shown, she refused to go anymore...lol. What you see as me being "unreasonable" is actually the consequences you mentioned she should have. It is the consequences of over two years of messing with our lives by being a manipulative, self indulged, adult sized toddler. By taking what we say and doing the exact opposite, sometimes at a danger to our child. By lying to family and friends to make herself appear without fault....
DH has actually made up a few rules himself.... my family has always followed to "2-3 days" rules but it was his idea to set it in stone with his mother so that they are treated equal. We also laid it out that last minute invites elsewhere outside of our home are okay, but not to be upset if we say no. He instituted the new one that we don't want visitors on weekdays late at night.
It just gets tedious making up all these "rules" I just wish the woman would have some common sense. It's common sense not to come over to someones house at 9 PM.... and to keep a toddler up past bed time.... to respect what the parents of you grandson say....
I don't want DS growing up to hate her, but I am only half of a whole here..... he has another parent (DH) who is sometimes worse than I am about MIL.... and she is HIS mom, thats saying something HUGE right there.
I don't think that I am making up excuses not to see her... She asked to come over on wednesday but I told her no because it was my brothers and my dads birthday. She actually requested that I miss it so that she could see DS.... when I go see her on HER birthday every year? Trust me when I say I don't make up frivolous excuses... I am a VERY busy person and sometimes the two to three days notice still isn't enough because of all the things I have going on... I have a HUGE family and accommadating everyone isn't always possible ...but I try, add in DH's family and it is even more hectic. . .I have some of DH's aunts blocking out my schedule days in MAY already . Some of the days MIL wants to hang out in the past are days we have DH's family functions and she just has a problem sharing DS.... she's welcome to come, its HER family after all. Thats just kind of when it starts getting ridiculous. . . . . anyways, I am not making excuses, I sincerely am a very busy person with not a lot of down time.I make my plans weeks ahead of time, 2-3 days often still isn't enough time. I can't put my life on hold for her.View Thread

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