You could always puree the meat and veggies since he seems to like that consistency better but I wouldn't bother. Another thing you might want to think about is teething. If he has teeth coming in then his gums are likely inflamed and eating stuff like meat might hurt his mouth. I always give my son a healthy and balanced plate. Some days he eats meat.... sometimes not..... he eats a lot of fruit and not so much on the veggies. It all evens out in the end. I wouldn't worry about it too much.View Thread
I also never put toys in the bed...... but if I want to sleep in a little bit I put a few books in the corner of my sons crib when I put him down the night before. I would only say something if you have a good relationship with your brother and his wife. I can't tell you how many times I have had to bite my tongue so that I didn't "tell someone how to raise their child". As a teacher I have seen some rather horrifying habits and in those cases it was my "job" to tell parents how their children can better succeed. . . but telling family and friends how to raise their children even for something as simple as putting them to bed earlier? I wouldn't ever cross that line. I have "my rules" when the kids are in my care (which they understand and respect), but when they aren't in my care their parents can do whatever they want so long as I don't have to hear them vent.View Thread
My nephew had the same problem..... and yes, in his case it was the parents' fault as well (DH's step sisters kid). He woke up three times a night for the better part of a year and a half. In this case it wasn't their schedule, more like their lack of backbone. They just gave in every time the kid made a peep and often woke him up on purpose to eat, ect... they created the cycle.
My son was in his crib from day one. He never slept in a bassinet and he never got in our bed. I have never and will never wake up a sleeping baby. If they are sleeping then they can have food when they wake up. Since the child is older I would say that it is going to be MUCH more difficult to get him on a schedule. Difficult, but not impossible. they just have to stick to their guns... put him in a routine (dinner, bath,book, bed at 7... that is my sons schedule). He might cry, but giving in to the crying will just make the situation worse.View Thread
Awwww, poor girl. My son got a rash when his molars came in... and yay, we have another set to look forward too! When he was going through the rash I kept his bottom and "boy parts" as clean and DRY as possible.I also changed him frequently so he wasn't sitting in "wet". I also gave him three or four baths a day (I know this deviates from the dry thing, but it soothed his skin and I made sure to pat dry afterwords and I let him run around naked for a few minutes). I put a little baking soda in with the bath water.View Thread
My son didn't have a problem and actually stopped taking the bottle at all when he was 10 months.... BUT..... My SIL had a problem with this and I guess It takes trial and error. She tried a zillion sippy cups and he wouldn't take any of them. Eventually she found one he liked but he wouldn't drink his milk out of it. She gave in and kept milk in the bottle (he gets it at night) but water in his sippy.. . . . He is going to be two in march and he still gets his bottle. but this is also the kid who woke up for a bottle at least twice a night for 14 months. Do whatever works for you. I was fully prepared to get rid of the bottles completely when my son turned one but he beat me to it. . . . every parenting style is different, some parents are okay with their three or four year olds having bottles and others aren't. I would also recommend trying out your daughters sippy cup. I get different ones from time to time and my son was getting really frustrated with this one sippy in particular and it was because no matter how hard you sucked on it, very little came out... we had to open up the holes a little bit on that one.View Thread
My son isn't two yet, he's about 20 months.... but his daycare teacher asked me if we were going to be working on potty training this summer. I had thought about it (it's warmer and he can go without a diaper without freezing his little behind off..... He didn't used to mind diaper changes but these days he fights me tooth and nail..... he seems interested (he always wants to go with us in there and he does have a little potty that he plays with... he just won't sit on it, he is afraid). . . . She mentioned the potty training because of the things listed above and also he has started doing a new thing, if we ask him if he needs his diaper changed he will always say no (and shake his head), but these days he knows he has to go because he will shake his head and say no before he even has a dirty diaper. My questions: Are these behaviors considered being "ready" ? How do I get him used to sitting on his little potty? He arches his body away any time that I try to put him on it without his diaper on.... He is my first so this is completely new territory here.View Thread
I am so ready for this week to be over, so HAPPY FRIDAY. I am a substitute and I had a teacher cancel a sub job at an hour before I was supposed to show up. I had already dropped him off at day care and paid for the day so that is $40 out of my pocket that I won't be getting back since I didn't work that day! Thats just RUDE, if someone is going to cancel at least do it days in advance so I have an opportunity to possibly get a different job (this was a prearranged assignment that was accepted WEEKS ago). Leaving me hanging and jobless at the last minute is a horrible thing to do. And here is my personal favorite.....I fractured my wrist! I was cleaning the carpet and I tripped over my son when I stepped back. He fell and in order to avoid landing on him I had to twist my body and land on my shoulder and wrist.....I hurt all over.The things we do to keep our little ones safe..... I could have landed safely I am sure but not with a guarantee that I wouldn't land ON him, it would have been too close to his little body....it's amazing that when it comes down to it that my first instinct is to seriously injure myself instead of possibly hurting DS.View Thread
My mom actually preferred those hours for the same reason.... True, she only saw my brother for a couple hours three or four days a week, but she also got three or four days completely off that she spent with him during the week. My family is into helping one another so she has offered to watch my son while I work when she retires in a few months.... so hopefully when I pick him up I can visit for a while and then I can get away from the every sunday visit thing (maybe only once or twice a month).... that will free up one day a week at least. I am just hoping that when that day finally does become available that people aren't jumping all over me to "book me" for that day as well. I am really thankful that DH's dad lives out of state... so I don't have to juggle his "needs" as well.View Thread
It is extremely difficult to talk with her because she twists everything you say and is so manipulative. She sometimes just flat out lies to get her way. She hears NOTHING when it comes to what my husband or I say about DS. We tell her no don't give him wine and she does it anyway when we aren't looking, we have since learned to watch her like a hawk.
I am a teacher so I have to be very flexible in my work environment, given that... I have to have a structured home to balance out the craziness or I will most likely go insane. I do realize that she is family, but I don't hold her to any other standard that I don't set for my own family as well. I don't believe two or three days notice is unreasonable at all.... my family abides by these same courtesies and it has never been a problem for them. As much as I dislike her, In the past I have given her plenty of opportunities to spend time with DS and she tells me "no" (which is fine) . I have asked her to babysit many times only to have her cancel on me last minute because "she just doesn't want to anymore" (which was also fine, I always have others on backup). Since she won't abide by what we say when it comes to DS..... she is no longer allowed to be alone with him or babysit for us. We just can't trust her because she insists on doing things the way she wants to do them and as you have read, some of them are toxic. As much as I would like to sit her down and talk with her as a family (again)..... she just doesn't hear us, therapy in the past has not worked.... when her "true colors" were starting to be shown, she refused to go anymore...lol. What you see as me being "unreasonable" is actually the consequences you mentioned she should have. It is the consequences of over two years of messing with our lives by being a manipulative, self indulged, adult sized toddler. By taking what we say and doing the exact opposite, sometimes at a danger to our child. By lying to family and friends to make herself appear without fault.... DH has actually made up a few rules himself.... my family has always followed to "2-3 days" rules but it was his idea to set it in stone with his mother so that they are treated equal. We also laid it out that last minute invites elsewhere outside of our home are okay, but not to be upset if we say no. He instituted the new one that we don't want visitors on weekdays late at night. It just gets tedious making up all these "rules" I just wish the woman would have some common sense. It's common sense not to come over to someones house at 9 PM.... and to keep a toddler up past bed time.... to respect what the parents of you grandson say.... I don't want DS growing up to hate her, but I am only half of a whole here..... he has another parent (DH) who is sometimes worse than I am about MIL.... and she is HIS mom, thats saying something HUGE right there. I don't think that I am making up excuses not to see her... She asked to come over on wednesday but I told her no because it was my brothers and my dads birthday. She actually requested that I miss it so that she could see DS.... when I go see her on HER birthday every year? Trust me when I say I don't make up frivolous excuses... I am a VERY busy person and sometimes the two to three days notice still isn't enough because of all the things I have going on... I have a HUGE family and accommadating everyone isn't always possible ...but I try, add in DH's family and it is even more hectic. . .I have some of DH's aunts blocking out my schedule days in MAY already . Some of the days MIL wants to hang out in the past are days we have DH's family functions and she just has a problem sharing DS.... she's welcome to come, its HER family after all. Thats just kind of when it starts getting ridiculous. . . . . anyways, I am not making excuses, I sincerely am a very busy person with not a lot of down time.I make my plans weeks ahead of time, 2-3 days often still isn't enough time. I can't put my life on hold for her.View Thread