Well, if that is the case that your DH being a SAHD is more of a lifestyle choice (or at least was for some extended period of time) rather than a forced situation, then I don't really think you can complain about paying his child support. You knew that would need to come out of your paycheck when you both made that decision, so in essense, it is your responsibility. Child support should be viewed just as another bill. Would you not pay your electric bill because you don't like the electric company? No, I wouldn't think so. It is court ordered, so if you have enough money to give your father $300 a month for some convoluted reason, then I don't see why you aren't paying the child support.
You do have every right to feel frustrated with the situation, but I don't see how you don't see it from her side as well. If you were not being paid on time from an ex for the care of their child, I doubt you would be thrilled about hanging out for a day in the park. I think in order for this situation to improve, you and DH really need to start catching up on the support in order to lay the foundation for a more functional relationship with your stepson.
And this is a sidenote, but I noticed that you said that you bother her and/or text her alot... stop doing that! That seriously can't be helping! She is probably just saying mean stuff so you will stop contacting her so much. And really, she doesn't need to be texting your DH and fb messaging him all the time either. I would think most second wives would see that as a Godsend, not a bad thing. Just lay off the techonology a little bit and only contact her once a week or so in order to make plans with the DSS... you may see your relationship improve jsut by taking simple steps like that.View Thread
My DS was anemic for his first 6 months, and the best way we found to give him iron supplements is mixed with prune juice. Not only was the prune juice pretty much the only thing that would hid the horrible tast of the iron, but it also balanced out the constipation issues that arise from taking iron supplements. If your DD is ok with taking a bottle at all, just try doing that. We always just used the little Medela bottles for those given that the prune juice is thinner like the breast milk as opposed to the formula... better for the gag reflex. GL with everything!View Thread
"If me and DH weren't together, would you still make me pay child support so DD and your DS could play together?"
In reality, if you and your DH weren't together, you would be in the same shoes as her (dealing with a deadbeat not paying his child support), so I think you would both probably be more inclined to put aside your differences so your kids could play together. In all likelihood, I doubt her reluctance to allow DSS to see your DD has anything to do with you and your DD, and more to do with the fact your DH isn't manning up and supporting his family (which yes, his DSS is STILL his family, whether or not he is living with you). I have no idea about the legal aspects of cutody and visitation are, but if allowed by courts, I would probably do the same thing she did. Obviously, I would be lenient if he had JUST lost a job, or something along those lines, but it sounds like he has been out of work for a while, and something tells me that she has been down the same road you are traveling now back when they were together.
Sorry, I have seen you post about this before, and I really have to wonder why your husband doesn't have a job? I know times are tough out there, but if things were THAT tough, and he wasn't even eligible to collect unemployment, he should take literally any job possible, even if it is low paying and/or crappy hours. My husband has been laid off twice since my DS has been born, but he has never been out of work because he puts a TON of effort into looking for something else right away... he worked a horrible night shift job for a year just so we could have health insurance and avoid sending my son to daycare for his first year (he was early and potentially prone to more sicknesses). Times have been tough, but I can't blame my DH because I know he is doing all he can.
Honestly, if your DH isn't doing all he can to contribute to your household expenses and feels content allowing you pay his ex's child support and/or forgoing seeing his other son because he doesn't want to get off the couch and work, then I personally would really question why the heck I am with a person like that.View Thread
Yeah, I just saw that link, and I don't quite buy it either. That is way too much of a coincidence. A "source" told his to US Weekly... that "source" could have just been Amber or her creepo pedophile bf... or hey, an exec producer at MTV! They totally would have had to pull the show if that was indeed the same guy, which would have stunk for them financially (it is their second top-rated show, I believe). VH1 had to pull that Megan dating show because one of the contestants murdered his ex and then killed himself... they probably don't want to deal with that again.
But yeah, Amber clearly has no parenting skills or motherly instinct, so none of this actually shocks me. Creepy watching this week's episode though!View Thread