Parenting with Love and Logic is a great resource. I am guessing you might not have a lot of time to catch up on parenting resource, so I would suggest maybe trying a few things I have found helpful.
1. Your child is learning that you react to her when she's being naughty, but do you give her as much attention or more when she is reading/playing quietly or do you see it as time you can do whatever you want?
give her lots of praise when she is behaving as you like her to.
when she is not, do not raise your voice. because when you make a loud fuss over her naughtiness she is getting your full attention. - see how that works?
2. Use and teach social graces. It makes life so much easier, for everyone and for the rest of her life. It also makes it easier when you need to work on her behavior. If you grab her when you are mad, she is more likely to learn that hurting others is okay, and we all know it is not. If you teach her to ask "May I change my clothes?" you can then say "You may not" or "you may, after you clean up your toys". and this all is a more positive way to communicate with your child over saying "No" which sounds so ugly when you can say, "you may not touch mommy's make-up without her permission"View Thread
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