She's crying out for control. If you don't already, then give her some - in small, well-controlled situations. Like, "which chair do you want to sit in for lunch? Do you want to wear the blue shoes or the red shoes? This fork or that fork?" That kind of little stuff. Then when she is making demands or telling you no, tell her "this is NOT a choice"...so she sees that she does not always get a say. It will make a huge difference. It will also giver her much more self-confidence in being able to call the shots sometimes.
It could be a lot of things...it could be that the public toilet thing is scary (DD took awhile to use them because she was afraid of the flush)..it could be that she gets a little bit of extra attention by needing a diaper change and she just needs that right now..it could be that she gets busy playing and just forgets while she is at DC (VERY common at this age)...it could even be that she just needs to decide this one for herself. In the end, backing off for a bit may be the best thing. Especially if they are not giving you a hard time about it. And you are right, you are seeing good progress at home, so that is very encouraging!View Thread
Can I butt in here? (sheepish smiley) It sounds to me like she's not quite ready. Is DC pushing you to train her? If there is no outside pressure then I would just back off and have them keep offering at DC- she'll do it when she is ready. I bet it would only take a month or two once the pressure lets up. JMHO.
I'm totally butting in here, but I agree with PP, your daycare is totally off base. It makes me so mad to see kids pushed like this - and do you know what the motivation is? To make it easier on the teachers. I worked as a lead teacher in a daycare for four years - all different ages through those years - and I never would have pushed an almost-three year old to do that stuff.
My DD will be four in June and she was reduced to tears trying to get her socks on this morning. She can dress herself otherwise, but socks require some dexterity! She mastered getting her own shoes on about two months ago...so please tell those teachers to go jump in a lake.