Hey everybody, I hardly ever post on here anymore but I was a big webmd community person when I was pregnant with my now 2 year old. What brings me back is I have an issue that I really needs others opinions on.
Here's the background
My MIL lives about an hour and 15 minutes away from us, she has seen my DD probably averaging once a month since she was born (she is 2), if that. They are not close and my daughter just recently started showing signs of remembering her and enjoying her. My MIL is great with her grandkids and she is used to having my SIL's two girls all of the time, over night, on the weekends, etc. Well, my DD hardly ever spends the night anywhere except home. Occasionally she stays at my mom's house overnight but my mom lives 10 minutes away and she is my DD's best bud. My DD is a HUGE mama's girl and we are hardly ever apart. I do work full time so she goes to daycare along with my SIL's two girls, that she is close with.
My MIL has recently started asking me if she could take Audrey for the weekend, which I have not been comfortable with at all. #1 because she hardly knows her, #2 because she has never been to her house and would wake up confused, #3 because she lives so far away. My MIL asked if she could have Audrey if she had my SIL's two daughters as well, since they are close I figured 2 nights should be okay. Well now she is wanting to pick up all the girls on Friday from daycare (I drop her off at , then bring them back monday afternoon/evening. That means I would not see my DD for 4 days.
I worry about her feeling abandoned, worried about if she will ever get to go home, and if she will be sad without me (HUGE mama's girl).
I also worry that I will not be able to handle it. When she stays with my mom I am there to pick her up first thing the next day. I really enjoy my daughter, I love being with her, and I don't have any reason for her to be gone for four days.
I am having a really hard time deciding if I should let her go or not, Im worried about traumatizing her, scaring her, or her being upset in any way.
I am also worried about the fact that I am 21 weeks pregnant with my son and the emotional stress I am feeling just thinking about it worries me. I know I will be a total mess while she is gone and I don't want it to affect my growing baby.View Thread