I know how you feel. I'm dealing with these issues right now. I am a divorced mother of 2, one an angel in Heaven. My daughter is my life and I've always wanted a son or daughter for her to grown up with. I grew up an only child and promised myself I would let her grow up alone. Me and her father are divorced and I have been seeing my high school sweetheart again for the last 2 years. He has a son 6 months older than my daughter. Which is great but he's not my own. I take over in the step mother department but I've always wanted to give my daughter an actual sibling. Have another to pass down my traits. Plus I've always wanted to have a child with this man. He is such a great person and a perfect father. We make a great couple and our families each adore our little family. I just want to expand on that. He won't ever talk straight with me about the topic. Just dodges questions and when I finally pinpoint what I think he feels, he just says no to a child. Then he'll see I'm upset and depressed about the subject of never having a chance to be a mother again and he comes back with 'well when we have a child...' It's an emotional roller coaster for me and he doesn't understand that. I come from a background of ovarian cysts, a teratoma cyst at that. My last pregnancy was rough, I had alot of issues with blood pressure but the stresses I was dealing with are no longer there. I'd really like to have another before I turn 30 in 4 years and I'd really like to just have another one regardless but I'm playing this game of tug-a-war with my emotions and reproductive organs. He thinks it's not a big issue but we are going to get married soon. I'd just like to know all the bottom lines before. That sounds selfish but he can't give me a straight answer now. I love him and would be with him no matter what but I just want him to know how serious I am regarding this topic. This is taking away the one thing I feel strongly about and I can't give up my dream without knowing all the facts and I'm not going down without a fight. It just hurts...View Thread
The opinions expressed in WebMD Communities are solely those of the User, who may or may not have medical or scientific training. These opinions do not represent the opinions of WebMD. Communities are not reviewed by a WebMD physician or any member of the WebMD editorial staff for accuracy, balance, objectivity, or any other reason except for compliance with our Terms and Conditions. Some of these opinions may contain information about treatments or uses of drug products that have not been approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration. WebMD does not endorse any specific product, service or treatment.
Do not consider Communities as medical advice. Never delay or disregard seeking professional medical advice from your doctor or other qualified healthcare provider because of something you have read on WebMD. You should always speak with your doctor before you start, stop, or change any prescribed part of your care plan or treatment. WebMD understands that reading individual, real-life experiences can be a helpful resource, but it is never a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a qualified health care provider. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or dial 911 immediately.