ok thanks for the tip. Izayah is supposed to start pre-k in the fall so maybe I will look into something sooner just for his speech. I'd hate to have him go to school and have problems communicating with his teachers and other kids!View Thread
I've tried to talk to the pedi about speech therapy for him and they tell me he is fine and wont give me a referral for it and the only speech therapy in town requires one. He is getting better and we are constantly praising him when he sitting and practices specific words with us. Sometimes he gets frustrated but he's slowly getting better. He will be 4 next month so at his check up I will again talk to the dr about speech therapy.
They keep saying he dosn't need it but when they try to talk to him he either doesn't talk back or he answers yes or no or I translate so I don't even see how they can say he does or doesn't need it! Its really frustrating because I know if I left the room and they tried to have an age appropriate conversation with him, they would have no clue what in the world he was trying to say! I just feel bad because sometimes it really upsets him that no one can understand him.View Thread
yes I did attempt to tell her that I am the mom and that he yelling at me for correcting him. But she thinks I am being mean to him or just need sleep because I'm grumpy. The big issue is that he is such a different kid when we aren't around her! People are always complimenting how well behaved my boys are and how good I am with them, but she thinks I am a horrible mom most of the time. It really hurts and makes me almost resent her. Monday night we stayed away and Izayah was an angel all day, we went back to mom's last night and it took him forever to go to sleep in his bed. He was up and down going in my room, and mom's room and trying to sneak downstairs with Coty. It was exhausting. I can deal with the difficult nights as long as he listens to me the next day when mom is around, so when I get off this evening, we shall see how it goes!...
If things don't change soon, I am going to be one angry mama tho!View Thread
My son is almost 4 and he has such a speech problem that I am constantly translating for everyone and sometimes I have to play a guessing game to figure out what he is saying. I am constantly trying to pronounce every sound of every word so that he can pick it up, but it doesn't seem to help. But my cousin (who is a month & a half younger than my son) is much like your daughter. I don't know what to do to help him. Is this a cause of something I did wrong? did you do anything different with your son or daughter?View Thread
he slept in his bed on christmas but then it was like the next night they were off mom let him sleep with her again. I took away his favorite toy for that day and he couldn't hav eit back until he slept in his bed again. its sucks that having them there makes it harder on me... and it seems like the older he gets the harder my mother makes it for me. Its now to the point that when I attempt to discipline him, he tells me he is going to tell mawmaw (my mom). When he does tell her, she yells at me and takes his side so I feel as if I can't mother my own child. It has made it extremely difficult for me lately. When I yell at him in front of her she yells at me, so he "knows" he doesn't have to listen to me when she is around. And when he wants something and I tell him no he either says well maw maw lets me have it or he goes to her and asks for it and she gives it to him even when I tell her I said no for a reason. I really don't know how to handle it. He is a completely different child than he was 6 months ago. It seems that since the baby was born, my mother feels the need to baby Izayah more and let him get away with everything.
Tonight my mother is off again, so I am taking to boys to stay with my BF for the night and spend time over there tomorrow so that Izayah will listen to me and sleep in his own bed there. so we shall see.View Thread
Yeah. I have told them again and tonight will be the first time since the incident that they will be home and he will be put to bed in his bed. I have told him that if he doesn't sleep in his bed then Santa wont know where to leave toys so he mights not stop. I'm hoping that is a lttle bit of an extra incentive to get him to stay in there all night. He has been doing really well but last night he woke up 4times. I took him back everytime and he only got upset the first time, but I am completely exhausted. I am really proud of his progress though! ... I will probably talk to them again tonight just to make sure they understand that he has to sleep in his bed and if there is an issue, come get me! Hopefully it works out better this time!...
Thanks for the advice again! This transition has gone much smoother than expected!View Thread
Another issue has risen with this sleep thing. I am currently living with my mother and her fiance. They work night shift 5nights a week and last night was the first night they were home since I started the moving process with Zay. Well he woke up at 1:30am and went down stairs with Coty(mom's fiance) and instead of getting him back to bed, he told him to go crawl in bed with mawmaw... So Izayah ended up sleeping with my mom, coty slept on the couch and I didnt know anything about it until I woke up for work at 6:30am.
He was doing so well the first night he woke up once and the second, he woke up at 6:30am and was up for the day, but had made it the whole night without waking up, and now this. I don't want this to effect this process, but when he doesn't come to me in the middle of the night, I know nothing about it until the damage is done. I had even told them that he is to sleep in his own bed. If e gets up, take him back, comfort him for a minute and leave the room with the door open. I don't knwo what to do... Please help!!!View Thread
So last night was the first night I attempted to put Izayah in his own room... At first it was a little rough because he cried and made me feel terrible for leaving him, but I reminded him that the baby was sleeping and he had to be quiet and I told him that Santa wouldnt leave him anything if he wasn't sleeping in his own bed, because he wouldn't know where he was or if he was sleeping. That seemed to help alot. He woke up once at 4:30 when Zak did and came over and layed down with me while I fed Zak and got him back into the bassinette... but once I was finished tending to the baby I carried Izayah back to his bed and told him I loved him and kissed him good night again. At 7:30 this morning he came running into my room saying mommy i did it. Its morning time and I slept in my big boy bed all night. ... today he told me he loved his big boy bed and he was going to sleep in it again tonight. Hopefully it gets easier tonight, but i'm nto holding my breath! I just have to keep reminding myself that this is best for both of us View Thread
All of the gifts from mommy will say from "Santa" the rest of the gifts will be from mawmaw, nana, gg, etc... Thats how my mom did it even when we were in high school! ... I will do the same for my boys. Izayah is almost 4 and Zakiyah is only 3months old so Zay will probably be opening all the gifts this year, but I still made sure they got the same amount and had close to the same amount spent on them!... As for organizing them, my mom put ours in seperate piles, but I will probably mix the boys up and just do different wrapping papers for each of them and another paper for stuff that is for both of them in the future. The boys will have "Christmas" at about 4 or 5 seperate houses (depending on if their father's get them anything)... so i doubt it matters what my gifts say is the sender lolView Thread
thanks for the advice! I will def initely have to try the practicing and making sure he knows I'll always be there when he wakes up whether I'm in the same bed or just in a different room!... I have gotten him a new bed "a big boy bed" and new bed set and new stuffed animals. I've even let him pick out material & I make a blanket and tell him he can only use the blanket in his bed, but none of it is enough to want to sleep in his bed! He does freak out when he wakes up and I'm not there. I actually had to stay somewhere this past weekend and had an air matress for him and brought the baby's glider with me and when the baby woke up i got on the couch right beside the bed and when he woke up I guess he didnt see me and just started running around the house til i jumped up and grabbed him. I thought it was really funny, but at the same time I feel terrible that he is so terrified!... Sometimes it is hard to do by myself but being alone is better than expecting him to do something but sitting back doing nothing while I am doing everything. lol.. sorry DH hasn't been much help! It does get a bit overwhelming with 2... but if you ever need to talk, I'm here and I completely understand! Just know that you are a good mama and they will appreciate you for all the things you do for them!View Thread