DH and I conference called the director with our concerns. As far as the potty, she said she's going to talk to the teachers again and she's going to observe DD this afternoon. The morning teacher told her today that she thinks it's a focus issue of DD, she's so excited to be finished to wipe that she doesn't finish and then wets herself.
For the kid being violent, they have a plan in place and are also seeking outside help. I guess from the state?!? Then if these steps don't help, she said they are going to ask the family to remove the child from the program.
Security, they are activity looking for a security system. As far as the back stairs, the door to the outside is locked. However, I still expressed my concern about children wandering out into the hall by themselves. She stated that the doors have been open b/c the building is old and the heating is located in that room so it gets very hot. We suggested that instead of opening the doors to the hall that they open the doors that lead into the 2 year old room. She liked that idea, so we'll see if they put it into place.
DH and I briefly talked afterwards. We're going to give it about a month or so but I've still contacted another center. We live near the capital of our state so there are tons of centers. It's just finding one that's at a convient location that is in our price range.View Thread
DD has been at the same daycare since she was 8 weeks old but recently we've been having some issues and I'm not sure if we should pull both girls. DD#2 wouldn't know the difference since she's only 4 months old but DD#1 has all of her friends and teachers that she knows. Here are the issues:
1) Turnover has been CRAZY!! Since DD#2 was born, DD has had 3 new teachers. That's only 4 short months!! I know daycares have high turnover but this seems rediculous to me. Plus I found out yesterday 2 more teachers gave their notice.
2) DD has been getting very red/sore in her privates. We took her to the pedi to make sure it wasn't an infection. It wasn't but she told us it was due to not wiping properly...she is only 3. Prior to this I asked her teachers to try to help her or even wipe for her. I find out yesterday from another teacher who I trust, that one of DD's teacher's complained about our request. Saying she doesn't get paid enough to wipe butts. HELLO!?! You're a teacher of preschoolers, they still need help!!
3) DD has peed her pants 3 times this week. She's been potty trained since July and hasn't had this many accidents since July let alone in a week. We think this might be b/c of the new teachers and that either they don't take her often enough or she doesn't trust them to tell them she has to go.
4) Both DD and another parent that I know told me that a kid in the class hits/kicks/chokes on a regular basis. The other parent even said something to the director but nothing has been done. I've noticed that DD's anger has gotten worse and I think it might be from this kid. When she gets mad, she hits the follow and screams. She's never done this before.
5) Security. The center is part of a church on the second/third floors. For over a year they've talked about installing a security system but still hasn't happened. There are stairs next to the bathrooms and I found out that the kids go to the bathroom alone with the teacher standing between the room and the bathroom. However, I've seen them get distracted and not keep an eye on the kid in the bathroom. Who's saying no one is coming up those stairs or that the kid wouldn't just walk out?!? Also with security, there have been days when I pick up DD and there is a stranger in the room that I've never seen or met before. Turns out it's a new teacher but there's no one there to tell me who this person is or if they are legit.
We are going through the same thing but like others said, our dentist said it's ok if she swallows the tiny bit of tooth paste. He told us to use a pea size amount but we actually use less than that. We've seen a pedi dentist and a normal dentist and they both said the same thing. The pedi dentist actually said that in our area it's actually ok b/c our water doesn't have that much flouride. I think with practice they will get it. We've tried the water idea but she drinks it then tries to spit, so she just doesn't get the concept yet.View Thread
Sounds normal to me. My DD has been potty trained since July and she still has accidents, just yesterday! Most of the time it happens when she waits too long and is making a mad dash for the potty. If she has sweatpants on, she makes it but if the pants are more difficult to get down, that's when the accidents happen. Also, for a few days she was waking up from naps/bedtime with slightly damp panties but her pants were dry. I asked her DTC about this and she said it was probably due to her cold. When they cough they pee a little. Another thought!View Thread
Hang in there! I too have a 3 year old and a 3 month old and last month I felt the same way. Seriously, sit down with your DH and let him know how you are feeling. DH didn't realize some of the stuff I do in the mornings/evenings to get the girls ready for the day/bed. So we made a list and agreed on who would do what. Sounds silly as adults but it worked. Now that DD#2 is getting a little older and is more content playing rather than being held, things are getting a little easier. I've been told that as she becomes more "independent" that things will get much easier, so I'm thinking another 2-3 months. Hang in there momma! I'm sure you are doing a great job. Also get out of the house alone...even if it's for groceries. I went shopping with my MIL and it's amazing what 2 hours away from the house can do for you!!!View Thread
DD has called us both by our first names and we've done the same thing with reminding her that we're mommy/daddy. I think the reason why they tend to call daddy by his first name is b/c they probably hear us saying it so often. Think about it, who normally is asking the other to do something?!? In my house it's mostly, "Chris take out the dog." "Chris help Alex on the potty" "Chris get the laundry." We just do those things, it's not like someone is constantly asking us.View Thread
I just posted this question on the two year boards but thought I'd add to to this post too.
So all of my friends with children the same age as DD or either SAHM or have a relative watch their kid while they work, meaning you guys are my only hope for some help!
First, let me say I tried the 3 day potty training camp and it failed for us. So that's not an option to try that.
Ok here goes. In the evenings we've started putting DD in underwear every night. A few times during the evening she'll make a mad dash to the bathroom saying she has to go but won't sit very long on the potty. Then a few minutes later she'll go in her pants. We can't force her to sit there, can we? However, when she's in diapers she'll hardly do this except for BMs. At daycare she's been in diapers 100% of the time and I think she's getting confused that she can go in her pants during the day but at night we are expecting her to try the potty.
So my issue is, do I just start sending her in underwear with a ton of clothes or do I wait until she starts going in the potty at home. I figure the more she's in underwear she'll get it b/c she's actually feeling wet. Those darn diapers/pull-ups she doesn't really even notice.