I know what you mean. Kids seem to know what buttons to push with us, probably because they have learned what works when we are frustrated and give in. I, too, tried the things you tried and found the same result. THEN I discovered a simple mommy trick that ENABLED me to take charge and gain control again. It is found the in a book called, From Combat Zone to Love at Home: The Happy Face Token System. The title intrigued me plus the author guaranteed my success for 30 days. I tried it and I can't begin to tell you how our family happiness improved. Within 2 weeks, my children were completing tasks happily, the first time asked and thanking me for being the best mom in the world! I was blown away at the ease and simplicity of this Happy Face Token System. My children even come up and ask me what they can do to earn tokens. The secret seems to be the reward chart that is in the book. The children earn tokens, according to my mood, or feelings of the day...(I love that) there's no set number and when they have a set number of tokens needed to use the reward chart (set according to my desire to let them do that reward) they can have that reward. I love the kind of things on the list. ie sleep in the family room, or on top of my bed in my clothes. These are the things that drive me nuts but they LOVE to do and will work for it. NOW I have a happy face. check it out it might help. http://happyfacetokens.comView Thread
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