My daughter is 4 years old, generally active and happy. She's never been the best at playing with other kids, she wants them to play her game and isn't great at playing their game. She also though seems to be fairly comfortable going off and playing by herself when she doesn't like the game the other kids are playing (even though we would prefer her to learn to play with others). But all of that is just background for my question. At my daughter's daycare (which she only goes to 2 days a week) there seems to be already a 'popular girl' clique. I say this just based on what we hear from our daughter. But anyhow, at least one of the girls, let's call her Jane, used to be really close with our daughter. Now however, Jane does not want to play with our daughter, and seems to say things like "I don't like your shoes" or "I don't like the color of your dress". Not big things, and we want to teach our daughter to not care. But instead she always says she wants to be Jane's friend, and she dislikes a color because Jane dislikes it. Things like that. After this long explanation here is my question. At what age does peer pressure usually begin, and how do we try to teach our daughter to ignore it and be herself. I know my wife and I would prefer her to be comfortable with herself regardless of how popular she is rather than trying to follow the popular girl and not learning to be herself. Any thoughts would be great, thanks.View Thread
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