I lived with DS's dad without being married to him. I felt that we had the same committment to each other as a married couple. We still had to deal with the same things. But I am so happy I wasnt married to him and had to deal with a long drawn out divorce, which I know would of been my case. It was so much easier to "seperate" from him. I wanted to have another kid, but didnt want to do it considering we weren't married. Pregnancy out of wedlock one, okay things happen, but again... why keep having kids if you dont want to be with their dad "forever" was my thought and I knew I did not want to be with my ex forever or married to him. We never would of been together if it wasnt for me getting pregnant. But we lived together and tried to make it work and i am glad we did for DS's sake, so he knows what it was like to have both of his parents in one home. My fiance now, we are just now moving in together and we are in the process of buying a house. I told him, if he wanted us to live together I needed a committment from him. I wasn't going to be "playing house" without a committment. We plan to marry at the end of September, so we will be living together for 6 months. Ideally I would of liked to see what it's going to be like, living together before accepting his proposal, but we have kids, we are both old enough. If we don't know now what the other is like or what our committment to each other is and our blended family,and if we cant work through the "living" stuff together, then we dont need to be married.View Thread
I have been on/off the boards since I was pregnant with my DS- almost 7 years ago. I was hanging around after DS turned 6. However, he is now 6+, so I think it's time to officially say goodbye to this board. Plus I havent been on much. I lurk more then post. Work and life is keeping me busy.
Good news to share is that I am now engaged and we put an offer in on a house yesterday! I will be gaining 4 step kids (19, 18, 16, 13). I am very happy.
Not sure if any of you remember my story, but my son's father pretty much sucked the whole time we were together. Cheated on me, was a drunk, never wanted to pay the bills, etc. So I feel so grateful to have met my fiance and to be so happy. We are each others best friends, he is great to my son, we have a lot of fun together and get along so well.
So just wanted to share! Hope everyone is having a great day.View Thread
DS's best friend from Kindergarten last year. His parents were like- Oooohhh Eli keeps talking about Logan and how they have to get together outside of school, blah blah blah. And I am like OCD mom, so I just kept thinking, okay sure. Hoping for them to never ask again. He also goes to Latchkey with the kids and we have done some school functions with Eli's parents, so I know them enough. Finally I couldnt avoid it anymore. So last day of school I invited Eli over to our house to play and go to a pool party. So after kindergarten graduation (last day of school), his mom kissed Eli bye, handed me his bag and said to call her when I was ready for him to be picked up. I was like OMG!!!!!!! That's it? No 15 minutes of rules, what he can handle, what he likes, doesn't like, who is at my house, do I have pets.... etc.etc. Honestly I always feel like being a younger, single mom, that other parents wouldnt trust me with their kid. (my own insecurity that I have) So I was like I cant believe this woman is handing over her kid, TRUSTING ME! Logan did stay at Eli's one time over the summer and it was scary but he did good. I know he has stayed with friends, when he was with his dad. I tell his dad, not to tell me until afterwards because I am just gonna freak out and worry. Heck I worry when he goes to his dad's. Thankfully most play dates are with my friends and their kids and it's a time for us mommies to catch up and the kids to play. Oh and I am now letting my SO's teenage daughter (16) watch him at my house for a couple of hours if I need to run errands and I worry. LOLView Thread
Currently I am exempt. I usually work 7:45-4:00. Sometimes I take an hour lunch, but most times 30 mins. I do work in the evenings, if needed for about an hour. But thankfully I get most of my work done during the work day. Prior to being exempt I would work btwn 3-10 hours a week OT depending on what I needed money for and how much work was available.View Thread
Last concert was the summer before last I saw the Smashing Pumpkins. Before that last concert was when I was preggers with DS. (Chevelle and Helmet) I would love to go to a country concert. Miranda Lamber, Sugarland, Zac Brown Band, Lady A. I have been to a lot of concerts, non country though. Before DS it didnt seem like a big deal to spend the money. Now I cant really justify it.View Thread
Not sure that I have anything to add. But I agree with Sandra- I make sure that DS has some "play time". I wake DS up around 6:30 and he lays in bed and watches Ben 10. I let him eat breakfast in bed (LOL) while he is watching tv. Something quick like cereal, yougurt, etc. I have trained him on commercial breaks to start getting dressed. At 7:00 before the next cartoon starts (Bakugan) he brushes his teeth. Then he "chills" for about 10 minutes. Then he knows at commercial break to come downstairs and get his jacket and shoes on. I have everything ready the night before as well. And I also get up earlier and make sure I am mostly done getting ready by the time he gets up.
Good luck and Congrats on your hubby's new job!View Thread