Hi everyone, I know I don't post often but I read alot! I don't want to bother anyone with my problems for sure BUT I need prayers and God's Guidance over the next little while. Quick rundown as to why: In Dec 2009 I left my husband due to his infedility issues of 2007-2008 and His refusal to cut all ties with "her" (she had been my best friend since we were 15 yrs old) When I left I went next door to my mom's with our daughter and even tho it was weird living next door to him it was best for our child during this rough transition. Alot of things have happened since then good and bad. He has said many time he was moving and we could have the house but He would never move beause i would never pay the mrtgage while he was there. NOW I find out he is behind on the morgage and he is packing his stuff and he brought me the papers from the bank to apply for a loan modification. I found out Today that I have to be living in the home to apply for this and I have until friday yes 2 days from now to pay at least one month or legal processing begins to foreclose. IF, IF I pay that one month it will post pone legal action and the application can take 60-90 days to finalize so they could foreclose before its processed if I don't pay. I want to keep the Home, I love that house even tho there is bad memories in it there is way more good ones. I dont want to let the bank have it and My ex has basically given up trying and it took him getting this far behind to decide to tell me and actually seems to be moving out. I am praying hard on what to do and plan on talking to him tonight I hope when i get off work..... IF he gives me a KEY to the House and lets me start moving stuff in then I would make the payment on Friday and see what happens from there with the loan ( I am borrowing the payment money since its such short notice and i am living with my mom and paying bills there cuz I am not a moocher). If he does not give me a key I am not paying the payment..I am not that stupid. PLEASE PRAY the God's will be done and if it is meant for me to get and keep the home that it happens. It would be wonderful for me and my 2 kids to have a home of our own It has my name on it if they foreclose i cant see my credit ever recovering I wish my ex had gave me a heads up in advance but as things go exes dont always do whats right thats why they are exes. Again Please Pray for God's will to be Done! Thanx in advance and God Bless you all View Thread
Thank you so much for your wonderful thoughts and prayer and I love how you incorporated God's word into it all I need those reminders and always need the prayers...We are still working on cleanign the house so we can move in and i am trying my best with God's help to be super nice to him and his current girlfriend he looks at my weirder and weirder the more nice I am. and even tho its hard at times the nicer I am to him wether he deserves it or not the happier I feel within myself! Thank you agin for your love and prayers and God' is so wonderful!View Thread
Hi, my now 8 month old was circumsized at 2 weeks old by the time he was 2 and half months he had devlped skin adhnsion or skin bridges it is where part of the foreskin adheres to the head but not all of it. he also had a hydrocelphil(sp?) its a hernia in the lower abdoman tha leaks fluid into the ball sack anyways our peditrician was able to pull apart one of his skin bridges but he had 2 larger bridges that wouldn't pop apart so when he turned 6 months old the did surgery to repair the hernia and the skin bridges its a very minor surgery and very common the doctors just fixed both my sons issues at one time and now he is doing great if they dont pop apart easily the surgery option is better that way they dont feel the pain when the doctors cuts it and since his surgery we had to pull the skin back at EVERY diaper chage and put bactracin all around and now 2 months later he had his follow up and all is great and We had never had baby boys in the family so we didnt have a clue what to do but it is very common I would recommend a pediatric urologists that routinely performs these procedures our peditrician recommended us to one and he was wonderful and there is like no scarring at all I WISH you the best of luck and GOD BLESS and Dont worry. Our peditrician doesn't recommend surgery until at least 6 months old and some doctors prefer to wait until 9 or so months GODD LUCK AND GOD BLESS. I would insist it fixed before he is a year old the older they get the harder and more painful it is for them and the after care is alot easier when they arent running everywhereView Thread
You can spoil him thats what grans do!!!! and dont be surprised if he decides to take an extra nap sometimes especially if he hits growth spurt . and hold him all you want to but i tell my mom to try and hold him and play with him when he is awake cuz even tho he will sleep while she is hlolding him HE bonds with her and learns from her more when awake. I will never be the one to say not to spoil a baby I am guilty of that but i think when its nap time the sleep better in a crib or pack n play HAVE GREAT DAYView Thread
my 8 month old takes a couple naps during the day and he was used to his great gran holding him to no end when he was tiny and she thought his naps should be couple hours but now he is older if you hold him he will sleep longer but a 30-45 min nap is normal for him he needs less sleep during the day and more activity and play time she actually told me she thought he was sick becuase he wasnt sleeping like he used to he was bored at times and got cranky but if he got more play time he was more tired and nap for almost an hour and was ready to play again he now takes his naps in his play pen and sometimes he wakes up happy sometimes not if he eats right before nap time he wakes up happier if he falls asleep and hasnt had a bottle or baby food within a couple hours he wakes up screaming cuz he hungry again dont know if this helped or not but maybe he has it a groweth spurt and needs smaller naps instead of the longer ones. My little girl never and I MEAN NEVER napped more than 30-45 minutes at a time even when she was 3 months old so every bay is different i know and they all grow so fast some babies like smaller naps than others my lil boy takes a longer nap in the a.m. with me cuz we curl up together after my 8 yr old goes to school but i work weird hours and the late morning is mom and baby nap time together LOL then he only takes 30-45 naps during the day with my mom . he might take 3 naps some days 2 on others. and they are spaced out from 9 am to 6 pm i dont get home til 8 pm or later and most night he is fighting sleep to see me it seems anyways hope i helpedView Thread
I am currently living with my mom and my daughter 8 loves her na na. when she was small and we lived next door i swore she loved my mom more but she didn't she just has a different relationship with her than me and yes she got away with everything. NOW that we live there and i now have a 8 month old lil boy I work full time and my mom babysits for me (am on a waiting list for daycare) He has his moments where he only wants na na its not that he loves her more he is with her more but he has moments where it is all about ma ma ma too. Its hard and i deal with depression so when i been working all day and get home and he only wants na na she takes him of course but its hard and I feel for you but I KNOW from experience with my 8 yr old and i have to keep telling myself too tho. Babies have their own personalities even when tiny and sometimes na na or maw maw or grangran is who they want and i pick him up if he cries but none of us pick him up if its just a lil whine not now with him being bigger but when he was itty bitty we all did so he is spoiled they get spoiled quick. and for the other poster i think your lil one is excited to see grandma BE glad she loves her gran its a great bond between a grand baby and a loving grandma. my now ex M-I-L has seen my daughter very few times in her 8 years and she choose to not be in her life when my daughter was young and as she got older her grandma wondered why my daughter didnt like her well she didnt know her thats why its sad but true.
origianl poster..Please dont resent your daughter for loving her gran do put your foot down about the mum mum find a another name we went with na na like ma ma but lil different and it worked for us your daughter has you all day long and loves you but kids can get bored and a change of pace is good for their developement my 8 month old even has times where he gets bored with my mom and my step grandma stayed with us for a while because of health issues but he got passed around to everyone because each person plays and entertains him a little bit different. It does hurt us mom's feelings when they want someone else but they always come back to mommy and they dont love others more than us its just different than us and i honestly believe That the more people that Love them the better and I know its hard to share that LOVE but the heart has bounderies and a childs love is endless Be thankful that gran gran loves them because some grans dont or act like they dont and the babies are the ones that get Hurt.
Cherish all the moments you can with your babies and be gald they have multiple people to Love them. HOPE I helped a little i think my post became a rant LOL i tend to go on to much GOD BLESS and Be patient becuase NOTHING compares to a moms love! and nothing is like a grandmas love but the two are different in many ways. okay im done View Thread