Yeah, I think I'm going to stay away from the rest of the 'cafe mom' world and just stick with the web md board Jill made. Most of the women on there act pretty ignorantly. Apparently we've been really spoiled over here. Yes, things get a little heated sometimes.. but never like i saw over there.View Thread
Ok.. before i start let me say that i fee like i'm going through an identity crisis! I've joined all the boards that the webmd mommas have made and now i don't know where to post! lol. I MAY post this on all three boards i'm on.. so if you are on those boards with me, don't be surprised to see it again!
Ok.. so one of the boards i joined is cafe mom, and there was a whole post about circumcision that started with a expectant mom asking how much a circumcision costs. I decided to read it just to see what everyone had to say, and everyone kept saying "oh, i'm surprised the anti-circ crazies haven't been on yet to tell me i'm mutilating my son...etc." Then they started talking about how gross uncircumcised penises are.
Ok, first of all, no, i did not circumcise my son. But, I honestly don't care what others do.. its a personal choice.. but i got so upset when they started talking about it being gross and unclean and going on and on about it. It almost seems like they were bashing uncirc. and saying it was wrong even though they kept saying "yeah, its a personal choice'. Well, my personal choice was NOT to do it, and i don't appreciate everyone basically saying that it was wrong. I believe an intact penis should be considered a natural thing. The thing that bothers me the most about this is that when he gets older other people are going to be closed minded about it and he'll feel bad about it. I just wish it were more accepted. I am happy with the choice I made. After all the research I did I just couldn't go through with it.
My disclaimer here being of course that I'm definitely not putting anyone down for doing it because i know the majority of little boys ARE, but I wish that it was more socially accepted, and i wish that people weren't so harsh about it.View Thread
That's kind of how I feel. I don't really want ppl to migrate to other boards because I love this group of mommies! But i hate these. I've already joined a couple of webmd momma created boards. It wouldn't be too bad if we all agreed on 1 board to migrate to though.View Thread
oh man, i'm sorry he's such a difficult sleeper. I don't know what I would do if DS was still waking at night. I'm tired all the time now as it is! I always put him down after a bottle, that's just my thing. I wish i had better advice for you then. Your best bet would probably be to find someone else to watch him that has less kids probably.. but that might be easier said than done. You are fortunate though that he only needs a sitter 2 days a week. Since you've already talked to her about it I don't think there is much else you can say that will make her actually respect what you want done.. kwim?View Thread
on our OLD boards there was a link to all the abbreviations.. but alas.. who knows what happened to them since the big change. (sigh)
But here are some basics:
DH- Dear Husband DBF- Dear boyfriend DS- Dear Son DD- Dear Daughter BD- Baby dance (sex to concieve) TTC- Trying to concieve Trigs- something in the post is upsetting and could trigger an emotion BFN- big fat negative (preggo test) BFP- Big fat postive (preggo test) POAS- Pee on a stick CIO- Cry it out BLW- Baby led weaning BF- Breastfeeding FF- formula feeding HTH- hope that helps JMO- just my opinion TBH- to be honest
help me out ladies!
PS. if you are new, you might not know, but they just completely changed these boards and a lot of us are considering leaving.View Thread
How old is he? I'm not at all siding with your babysitter, so don't think I am.. but i know as they get older they stop needing so many naps. Every baby is different, but the typical 1-4 month old takes 3 naps a day, morning, afternoon, early evening. At some point before like, 9 months the early evening nap disapears, and then before 11 months the morning nap disapears so that eventually they just take one afternoon nap, and of course, that one lasts awhile. With my DS, he's been pretty ahead of all this and naturally put himself on a one nap schedule, but he sleeps for 2 hours. He put himself on this schedule. He started acting like he wasn't sleepy in the morning until around 11, then he'd nap until 1 or even 1:30. Then i just put him to bed around 7. If he isn't acting tired in the morning, maybe he's transitioning?
On the other hand, i totally understand where you are coming from. You are his mom, you want him to take naps, and she isn't respecting your wishes. I've read that naps in the car do not count as naps. Maybe you should bring that up with her? Also, it may be a good idea at home to get him used to self soothing during naps, that way a provider won't have to sit to sooth him during naps? I can see how it would be pretty difficult for her to do what you do considering she has more kids. Maybe its just time for you to start looking for another provider? Although something tells me you will have a hard time with this issue. With him only there 2 days a week it shouldn't really mess with his sleep schedule too badly.
I'm sorry if this wasn't exactly the advice you were looking for, but if you listen to any of it I would focus on helping him to self soothe during naps. Does he have a favorite blanket, toy, stuffed animal, binky, anything that might help him soothe himself to sleep? Maybe a mobile with music could help?View Thread