I was just going to post this same situation about my son, who just turned 11. I started noticing him doing these same things about 2 years ago that you are describing. I hope someone posts some advice for you!View Thread
Ok, I hope I am not alone in this because I am about to lose my mind. One of my girls seems to have these crazy mood swings. One minute she is smiling, happy-go-lucky, playful, loving....and the next (usually when I ask her to do a chore, homework, bath, bedtime, etc....or when someone wants to watch something diff on tv, someone touches one of her toys...etc) she explodes in a fit of whining, crying, telling us no, saying it's not fair, going limp when we try to pick her up, getting very hateful and saying we don't make her brother and sister do the same things (but we do. they all have the same responsibilities). I have tried everything I can think of to bring her back to a calm state. I have bent down where I am at her eye level (even laid on floor by her!). We have tired punishment such as no tv, video games, fav stuffed animal, etc. Also tried having her sit in a "time-out" spot. She has been sent to bed early. Nothing seems to phase her. She will continue her "fit throwing" until she eventually falls asleep or realizes we are not giving in. Which, by the way, I don't give in. I will admit, much to the dismay of those against spanking, that I have even swatted her. Now, mind you, I was raised in the day when this was acceptable, and I still find it so when it is needed...not excessive or abusive though.
Does anyone else have these issues with your child around the same age? Any suggestions? I have honestly considered counseling for her. She is the "middle child" now that one of the quads passed away. Is middle child syndrome a real thing? Because she's not the "baby" of the four? Because she's not the oldest?
Hi ExtremeEllison. I'm sorry you are having the same problems with your daughter. I wish I could say things have gotten better or I've had her evaluated, but neither are true. She is now 10 years old and the meltdowns and anger issues have not slowed. In my reply to 'lemom' a few minutes ago, I told her what I've been trying to do this past week which is remain calm when she has a meltdown. It's been extremely difficult, but I have noticed since I stopped raising my voice to talk over her when she's upset it's a little better. I force myself to smile, hold her, and talk to her about what is bothering her. Which is not always easy because she has to be calm enough to hear me. But anyway, then I try to make her see the bright side of the situation (hopefully there always is one), and make her smile or laugh. I really think my calm approach has helped. Now...getting my husband to stop raising his voice and staying calm is another thing. He still does it, and her meltdowns go into overdrive. I've had to finally tell him not to talk to her if he's upset because she draws that negativity and forces it back on us. Been quite an adventure!
Hi lemom, I'm so sorry I didn't reply sooner! I don't get on here very often and my notifications are not working. I'm sorry you are having the same problems. It sounds like we are not alone, which is comforting in a sad kinda way.
My daughter is 10 now and still having the same issues. Still have not had her evaluated, but I have a call in to a friend who is a school psychologist. Hoping she can give me some pointers.
Over the past week I have worked very hard to maintain a calm, even temper with my daughter. Even when she comes unglued and starts yelling, I have not raised my voice or gotten upset. Actually I've forced myself to do the opposite and calmly sit by her, hold her, and talk about what's bothering her. If at all possible I try to make her smile or laugh and that usually brings her out of it.
Hi sisiandkais, I am not sure about dyslexia contributing to your daughters mood swings, but it's entirely possible that she feels out of control due to it. (I have a sister who is dyslexic and says she feels that way a lot). Does she take medication?
I never took my daughter to be evaluated by a psychologist, however I really wanted (and still want) to. My husband is not supportive in this area and feels like yelling at her is the only option. I am frustrated beyond 2 years ago now. I think we need a support group! HA!
Oh I completely understand the super happy, super loving, super sweet, super active, then all of a sudden there is super agitated and pissy. I wish I had words of comfort or wisdom for you, but unfortunately I'm still in the same boat.
Keep me posted on what you decide to do! Best wishes!View Thread
Hey, Lori...don't feel bad about posting this question here. That's what the forums are for
As for your son's problem.... Did you notice any flaky skin or scaly looking? My son had a bad yeast infection once and his scrotum looked exactly like you are describing but had a flaky/scaly look to it. I ended up taking him to the doctor because, like your son, he was in pain. I told the doctor I had put Desitin on it and he screamed...she said the zinc in it can burn raw skin. Well then why the heck do we put it on our poor little ones bottoms when they have a rash!? Poor babies! Anyway, she told me to use Monistat on him...and it worked.
Hope this helps! Of course, I am not a doctor so if you have any concerns (swelling/continued pain/trouble urinating/fever) I would definitely give his pediatrician a call.View Thread
Having three 7 year olds that know how to push each other's buttons in the morning, I try to detour them from being in the same room while getting around.
I also try to do a lot of the morning stuff at night. Laying out clothes, shoes, getting backpacks ready, getting everything laid out for lunches (then I just have to warm up whatever they want as main course and toss in the bag). My best friend does mostly the same thing except as she gets one child up, she dresses them, brushes teeth, fixes hair, then sits them at the table for bk...then goes and gets the next one up and does it all over again. She has four girls, however...two are elementary age and two are still toddlers. I have tried this approach, and I will admit, it does make the morning smoother, but they are also almost 8 years old and I would like to think I can tell them to get dressed, shoes on, teeth brushed, and let me fix their hair without a fuss. Doesn't usually happen....but a girl can dream.View Thread