Seriously? What doctor would find cause for concern in a non developed 10-year old girl? And to even suggest that it would mean she'll never develop sounds crazy given the info you've provided.
My oldest is 10 and has no breast development at all. She's of average height and weight and is perfectly healthy despite the lack of puberty. Of the 17 girls in her class, only one even has the lightest hint of development. I don't even think many of her friends in the next grade are developed.View Thread
I think your first problem is that she is not getting as much sleep as a preschooler needs. At 2.5 my kids needed 10-12 hours of sleep at night plus a 1-2 hour nap after lunch--so for starters she's going to need you to set up a new bedtime, morning and eating schedule. This will become even more important as she gets older and closer to grade school age.
It seems unfair to expect her to deal with all these changes and not cry so I doubt she has a physical condition, she'd just trying to adjust to too many changes at once. Set her up to succede by making her a good healthy breakfast and then offer the milk (in a cup), make sure she gets enough sleep and try not to drag out the drop off at school- just make it quick. Two of my three kids cried at driop off for their first few weeks of preschool and one cried for about a month as we'd get ready to go. They all adjusted in their own time and none are scarred from the experience.
As for the car rides, have your wife stop sitting in the back for good. Your child should be capable of riding in the back seat herself. Offer up books, toys and snacks and stay consistent. She may cry but she will get over it (like most bad habits) once she realizes she is ok.View Thread
I understand we all parent differently and I get the desire to raise children without a focus on money and materialism but seriously, a QUARTER? Wow! My kids normally get a fabulous $2 bill but for their first tooth they scored a crisp $5 bill AND a small gift. I think losing teeth is a fun and exciting right of passage and that it's a great opportunity for kids to feel special.
I mean seriously, you might get 8-10 (or even less) visits from the Tooth Fairy before they stop believing and that's hardly going to imapct their "mentality"....Yikes, I'll stop now before getting into how insulting the first sentence of your post was.View Thread
So, I just officially registered and paid in full for DD1's very first week of sleep away summer camp. I researched myself into a frenzy but finally found a place that met all of my qualifications (child/staff ratio, distance from home, variety of activities, camp policies, etc). I can honestly say I feel good about this and am (almost) comfortable with her going 300 miles away. She'll go in mid-August (she'll be six weeks shy of 10 at that point) for seven nights and will have one friend from school there at the same time. It's technology free which we're both excited about and she can't wait to be independant, meet new friends, hang out by the campfire and try water skiing, archery and wake boarding. My mom could never afford to send me to summer camp, although I did go to a Girl Scout Camp once and loved it!
Anyone already been through this? Any thoughts or tips on what to send/not to send that may not be on the camp's packing list? TIA!View Thread
Are you and her father tall or short? It sounds like she's been on the low end of the growth curve for a while so it may just be that she will always be a smaller person. I'm only 5'2" and didn't weigh even close to 100 pounds until I was close to 30 but it's never bothered me at all. It's just me. My kids however, are giants, and have always been above the 75 percentile (usually closer to the 90-98 percent range) but I have to believe it will even out and slow down given my height and the fact that DH is only 5'11". DS is just 7 and is 51.5" tall, my 9.5 year old DD is 54" tall. My baby is 4 and despite being one of the youngest in her class is one of the tallest at 44 inches (only 4 inces less than your 10 year old). LOL.
All that aside, I think growing an inch in 6 months at 9.5 is a pretty good growth spurt. Hopefully she can learn to love her body and accept her size for what it is. Good luck!View Thread
What is she stressing over that is causing her to panic? What happens to her during these episodes? None of my kids (4, 7 and 9) have had what I would called a panic attack although they sometimes feel nervous in new environments and have the occasional meltdown after a hard, exausting day/game/workout. I try to stay ahread of this by making sure they are well fed, hydrated and not over tired.View Thread
I'm with you on the Junie B. books! We received a set for DD1's 5th birthday and barely made it half a chapter before donating the whole lot. I have similar feelings about the Katie Kazoo books and all things Captain Underpants.
DD2 is in 3rd grade but has been an avid reader since she was your DD's age. I think her favorites have always been mysteries and she started with series like: Nate the Great, Cam Jansen, A-Z Mysteries (she loved these), Stink (this is Judy Moody's little brother and the books are a bit easier than the actual Judy Moody series), Magic Treehouse, Judy Moody series, The Ramona books (also a big hit--she read them all), and the Rainbow Fairies series (she read these early on in first grade and I thought they were decent and age appropriate. Of the hundereds they probably have now, she most enjoyed the original Rainbow Fairies, The Sports fairies and The Pet Fairies.
M is now into things like 39 Clues, Hugo Cabret, Wonderlust, The Secrets of Droon (great series of shorter paperback stories if your DD likes fantasy) and as of yesterday, The Tails of Emily Windsnap.
I'm sorry, what a rough start in the long journey of homework! I can't imagine they expect too much of a story from a kindergartener, do they? I, personally, would keep it simple and allow him to decide how much is enough. I think it's fine to do little bits at a time too--my oldest still does that and she's 9, it works well for her and as she's grown the stories have naturally devloped as she matured. I have never done too much to help her so they know exactly what she is capable of and that seems to have helped because her school has never piled on more than she can easily tackle.
My DS is a first grader and does the bulk of his writing at school. as they are not given language arts homework until second grade. For now, it's just a 4-8 minute math homewrok sheet each evening. I let him decide when to do it so we have less of a power sturggle. Sometimes he does it after school, sometimes after dinner and sometimes before breakfast. Again, it's only a few minutes so it works for the time being.
If he struggles for ideas maybe you could try one of those story starter sets with picture and words cards to arrange. I can't remember which type we have at home but will happily check it out if you're interested. My kids use them for stories, plays and just plain silliness.View Thread
When do you move back? I bet your garden will be the perect escape, especially when the "to do list" inside seems overwhelming.
My tulips all came up and our plum trees bloomed but the warm weather stopped abruptly and everything drowned after a week of solid, heavy rain. Good thing that rain made for an awesome weekend of skiing fresh powder!View Thread
We've been very lucky (knock on wood) in that none of our kids have been sickly. DD1 has only had a couple colds in her 9 years and only one illness (hand foot and mouth at 2years) that slowed her for more than 2 days. DS had a runny nose from 2-3 years of age and I was really worried he was going to have constant problems once he started preschool but nope, he's been A-OK too. He did get that H1N1 in pre-k and ran a high fever but has not been ill since. DD2 has had the occasional sniffle but nothing more than that ever--knock on wood again!View Thread