Trust me, I was having major anxiety just typing that out. I've always invisioned 12 or even 13 being the appropriate age for things like staying home alone, sitting in the front seat and going off to sleep away camp but now that I'm faced with a responsible and mature 9.5 year old who is begging to be allowed to finish her book at home instead of loading up in the car so we can drop off her brothers friend, I find myself needing to reevaluate my position.
The walking 2 blocks thing in a no brainer for DH, as he grew up in this small town and walked the same tree lined streets for years. To make things worse, he feels like she should be doing it already and that since I'm at the end destination with DD2 in a class (which is why it's hard for me to meet at the bus stop) Logan should walk along side her. Ugg, I just can't seem to get on board with that any easier than I can imagine leaving DD2 in class and risk the bus being late and her being the one left alone.
As for the peers, no, not really but similar things are beginning to happen. A group of her classmates take the bus to the swim club, get off, check in with the office manager, change for swim team and swim for 45 minutes before their parents arrive. To me that's different (and I did allow her to do that during the fall session) because they are being supervised in some degree by adults (... and I always showed up before she got in the water).View Thread
DD1 is almost 9.5 and recently began asking for more household responsibilities in hopes of gaining more independance. She's responded well to some new chores and I'm finding myself very grateful for the extra help she's providing but am struggling with a couple of her requests, mainly staying home alone and walking by herself short distances.
She'd like me to allow her to stay home while I run quick errands, pick up a sibling, drop off a playdate, walk the dog, etc. In most cases, these things take less than 15 minutes and never more than 30 minutes but I still feel uncomfortable. I actually don't worry at all about her or her behavior in the house, she would be perfectly fine, stay inside and read, do homework or play in her room. I stress over all the other factors of her not beig directly supervised. Same goes with her desire to help out by walking from the school bus stop to her taekwondo class which are less than 2 blocks apart (separated by the local park and police station).
Am I being to protective? Is there such a thing? For those with older kids, when did you allow such things? For those who haven't reached this point, what are your thoughts? TIA.View Thread
I wouldn't tell your kids they can't be friends anymore, especially since the friends aren't harming your children in any wa and it's not possible to cut ties socially. I would however not allow my children to go to a home where they were not supervised. Period.
We've had similar issues at one of my 6-year-old's friend's home (poor or lack of supervision) and since it bothers me, my DS does not go there alone any more. I like the kid and the mom but she's too busy and/or distarcted to care for the boys and they aren't old enough to make great decisions when together so, they play at my house and at school. DS doesn't know I feel this way and I'll never bad mouth the mom in front of him but I will do what is best for him. Chances are she won't confront you for offering to host time and time again but if she does just tell her that you're kids need to be with an adult and supervised at all times and that you know that isn't alwaysy possible with her schedule or whatever.View Thread
DD1 has asked for a "real" camera for Christmas this year and I'm wondering if any of you have any suggestions. She's just turned 8 so has no interest in the toddler cameras or anything with a Disney Princess or other such character on it.
I'm hoping for something digital, that's easy to use and takes decent shots. TIA.View Thread
We live minutes from San Francisco so this is a well known topic of conversation around here. Personally, I don't necessarily feel it's mutilation but also don't see it as a necessary procedure. I think it's just a family decision and don't pass judgement either way.
Yes, my son (5) is circumcised but it was done because his father is jewish and it was important to him. I would not have done it for any other reason.
In the hospital DS was born in only about half the boys are circumcised anyway so it does seem like a waste of time, money and energy to go so far as to make it illegal.View Thread
My oldest has only just turned 8 so no, we won't be taking her to the theater to see this movie. She did however, see the first HP movie last weekend for the first time and asked that we consider getting her the books to read. I think it will be a few years though before we get through the books and movies because, as you mentioned, the later ones just aren't that appropriate for her at this age.View Thread
My just turned 8 year old and my 5.5 year old accept that it's their responsibility to take care of their belongings and their rooms. My 2 year old cleans up after herself as well and takes great pride in emptying her hamper and "making" her crib every morning.View Thread
Just curious what everyone thinks about sleepovers? Has your child started having them, if so what age? If not, when will you allow it? Are they best with one friend or multiple friends? Do you set a bedtime? Where do the kids sleep? What do you need to know about the host family before you'll let your DC go?
DD2 has just turned 8 and this summer had 2 sleepovers with one very close friend (our house once, friends house once). Everything went fine both times but I've been hesitant about accepting or offering invitations to her other friends due to my lack of experience. TIA.View Thread
Hey there stranger! I miss the old crew too and keep hoping they'll magically reappear one day. Thanks for checking in. We're all good and the kids are growing strong and fast. How's your not-so-little guy doing these days?View Thread