The easiest way out would be to say that it's a "girls only" (at age 5 it often is) party with a princess or fairy theme (which it probably will be ...) and that you're sorry but ... Heck, having an older boy around, special needs or not, is going to spoil any girlie party.
Why is the mother going to attend anyway? None of the mothers ever attend my daughters' birthday parties (I have twins)... They drop their daughters off and then come back at the agreed time. They do the same for play dates (they're usually only too happy to have their hands a little more free for an afternoon - lol).
How about making invitations to make it more "formal"?View Thread
I think you're trying too hard to be nice to her. I would ignore her and avoid doing anything with them as a couple (or with him on his own).
Have you considered that perhaps you make her uncomfortable by setting up co-parenting day trips (no offence intended but doesn't that rather confuse your children?) and inviting them? Maybe she just wants to be their stepmother in her own home and not feel obliged to be pulled into your life. Perhaps this is just her (rather clumsy) way of trying to push you away and cut the ties?
I think you may have to accept that you might never have a good relationship with her. The only two solutions I can suggest is to either ignore the stories she's spinning and stop all contact with her and see if the stories stop or tell her that if she doesn't stop telling such appalling lies about youi that you will sue her for slander (and be prepared to follow through).
There is only so much a person can do, you know. There's no way you can do more because you don't have the authority as parent. Just try to be patient with her and, if possible, show her a good example. More than that cannot be expected from you. View Thread
My daughters eat in the school canteen every day. The food is made in the school kitchens. The ingredients are supplied by local suppliers (we live in a region where crops are only treated when they absolutely have to be ... ) and the menus are drawn up with the help of a nutritionist.
I am satisfied that my children get proper food that is not only nutritious and tasty but also pretty varied.View Thread
Why is WebMD promoting such antiquated thinking? Why assume that home and children are a woman's responsability and that the male just "helps"?
If couples could get their minds round the fact that both partners are equally responsible then a lot of the guilt could be avoided and a few more problems besides. Men should not "help" their wives. They should be hands-on participants at all levels ... just like she is. THAT is what WebMD should be promoting - not age-old, out-dated role models...
Personally, I accepted from the start that not everything can be done, not even by two willing participants . I have never considered that "super-mom" exists anywhere in the world of reality. If you have realistic expectations you're a lot less likely to be disappointed and certainly less likely to feel guilt ...View Thread
If you have a garden, buy some nasturtium seeds too. They come up quickly and you can eat the flowers (beautiful in a salad) AND the leaves (if you like roquette you'll probably like nasturtium leaves) but only a few in a salad, well shredded - they're a bit strong.
If you have to grow things in pots and you have a sunny spot, consider strawberries and raspberries View Thread
Have they got their bit of garden? Maybe plant things that are easy and grow fast - lettuce, scallions, tomatos ...
I'm out in the country and we go wild asparagus hunting in the fields around us every weekend! There are always "wild" foodstuffs you can harvest depending on where you live and what your climate is like.View Thread
Agree with PP. Also to be taken into consideration is the age they started getting their baby teeth. I have twin daughters, one started getting teeth at 4 months and the others followed rapidly, the other got her first tooth at 11 (yes, eleven) months and the rest all of a sudden a few months later (lol). They are now 7 1/2 and the first one has been losing her teeth for the last 8 months or so and the second hasn't started yet. Neither the pedi nor the dentist is worried.View Thread