I am a big believer in making beds. All beds must be made by noon or you will have bad luck. My mother somehow mashed that into my head and of course, now when my bed isn't made by noon-I am having a bad day so it does seem true.
It sounds like he just has too much in general. Maybe the answer for all of you is to get rid of it all and only have two or three toys. Put the rest in the attic or give them away. This has worked with my kids when things have gotten consistently out of control.
Of course, for a day or two-there is anger and tantrums. That is why we get to be the adults and stand firm. We have at points told children you have one hour and after that-everything goes in the trash or to Goodwill if it isn't where it belongs.
Out come the big trash bags-bye bye goes all the stuff. None of the kids has had any permanent damage from their tantrum or from having fewer toys. In fact, they are generally happier.View Thread
I grew up in a household where it was very common for us as girls to either bathe with our mother or sit on the closed toilet and talk to her while she took a bath. The nudity never troubled me and in fact I never really thought about it. I grew up comfortable in my skin and with nudity.
Since we have a blended family and children of both genders - we don't do that in this house. (which is good because I certainly have been known to shower to get a few minutes on my own)
However, until my son was 6 or so, he saw me naked or partially naked on a regular basis. It was easier and safer to bathe the kids -especially as infants if I sat in the tub with them. Since he wasn't that much older there wasn't some point where we said "oops-nope-no more seeing mom naked." until after his father and I divorced and I became involved with someone with much older children.View Thread
I think that this isn't behavior unique to children with ADHD. If it is a serious issue for you, then you need to go out together and buy a special bin for his "special things" to be stored in. If it doesn't fit in that bin-then it must go if it looks like trash.
I understand wanting to keep the child organized and that the best way to do this is to keep his life as uncluttered as possible-but also look around you-what things do you keep in your life that other people would find completely ridiculous? Everyone has something...whether it is refrigerator magnets, a happy meal toy that they like as adults, their child's first finger painting, a rock from a special day on the beach.
Our job as parents is to teach children how to keep that in balance with health and hygiene needs. I find that having a daily clean up schedule at that age helps...rather than a big overwhelming "clean" of their rooms. When I do clean their rooms, I make sure they are there with me unless they have reached an age where they have been warned and warned yet not made any progress and it is keeping them from doing their school work.View Thread
Welcome Misty! How nice to have a homeschooler on board. I am reading Mary Ostyn's book "Sane Woman's Guide to Raising a Large Family" and wishing for a do-over since my large family is mostly grown. She homeschools her 10 children. We homeschooled two of our children at different points in their lives and it was the right choice for those two.View Thread