When a child does something "out of the blue" such as this, I would take it as a red flag. There could be an emotional reason behind your son's behavior, and with him being so young, I doubt he can communicate that to you.
Divorce, visiting another parents home, different environment is very difficult on most young ones.
I would suggest finding a really good Child Psychologist to see your son. I don't believe punishment is the way to fix this problem, that will most likely make your son more distraught and cause other issues.
This is really tough, and I'm so sorry you are finding answers so difficult to come by.
I just have another thought here......do you think, maybe these stomach aches are due to your son being stressed or anxious?
I ask because when physical causes are ruled out, often times they can be caused my mental angst. Not to say the pain isn't real for your son.......I'm sure it is - - but its just not caused physically, but mentally.
If the Dr.s continue to rule out anything medical - I would highly suggest finding a good Child Psychologist (preferabley Male), to see your son and explore what's going on.
If it is indeed mental, your son doesn't recognize it, and if someone flat out asks him if he's "stressed" , he'd be like "what?? No, I'm not", because children can't make that type of a connection at their young age - heck, even some adults can't make the connection between mental health challenges and physical pain.
- Just another perspective.....I hope your son feels better soon. Take care, -KathleenView Thread
This is really tough, and I can emphasize with your situation!
I think getting to the root of your son's anger is important, and a good child psychologist may be able to help him. They should do a complete evaluation on him, then decide a course of treatment. Good Child Psychologists can be hard to find, so you may want to get a pediatrician's recommendation or talk to some friends.
Discipline can be tricky, and here again, a good psychologist will work with you on techniques and ideas.
Not sure if you've heard of Ross Greene before? He has a great approach in dealing with children who are behaviorally challenged - check out these pages:
When looking for a qualified Dr. to see my young daughter, I followed those suggestions. I also found it very helpful to meet with and "interview" the prospective Dr. to see if I found her a good fit for my daughter. It actually took me 3 interviews before finding one, but it was totally worth the effort and time.
So, it sounds like you're saying this is new in the last 5 or so months? Prior to that, your daughter didn't have these "accidents" ? She was dry at night and didn't wet herself in the day?
If that is the case, then it sounds like this is an emotional issue. Young children who face divorce, lifestyle disruption (moving, new school, new sibling etc..) often can not verbally express their inner turmoil, and unwittingly begin behaviors - - wetting is a common one.