I'm seeing the gap in maturity levels between Emily and Elizabeth widen recently. Emily wants to be more involved in adult conversations, and is happy to listen and participate. She doesn't have to take over the conversation, either. She wants to help around the house more, and is actually helpful. I'm also seeing the grils disagree more on what movies to watch. Emily wants more "grown up" movies, while Elizabeth is still wanting cartoons.
Just wondering if anyone else is seeing a big jump in maturity around this age.View Thread
I think it depends a lot on where you live -- small town, big city, etc.
Emily is (almost) 7, so it's hard for me to say when I will let her be home alone. Not for awhile, though, that's for sure!
I was looking through a city parks brochure this week, and saw they offered a workshop for kids to stay home alone. It was for kids ages 9-11, so you seem to be in the right age group to start considering it.View Thread
It sounds pretty normal to me. My girls are 5 and 6, almost 7. I do the same thing when I shower -- put on cartoons and leave the door open to my bathroom. I feel safer that way, knowing that I can hear them and they aren't getting into trouble. Plus, I'd rather my girls wake me up in the morning when they get up so they aren't getting into anything while I'm sleeping.
I also don't see anything wrong with them snuggling in his bed. Kids are only little for a short time. They will eventually get to an age where they don't want to do it any more. I would let the children lead that, and not put any rules down restricting it.
I don't think these things mentioned would give the ex any "ammo", as you put it. Honestly, (please don't think I'm bashing, I don't mean to) but I think you are giving the ex more "ammo" by having a girl friend spend the night there while the girls are in his custody.View Thread
I think it's time to move over here for Emily. She will be 7 next month, so I think it's time to move from the 4/5 board. I can see she is really growing up, and I'm starting to have issues that hopefully some with older kids can help me with.
I live in St. Louis and have another daughter, Elizabeth, who is 5.
Would anyone else like to introduce themselves? Maybe we can get this board a little more active.View Thread
Well, I haven't been through it, but I do have a 6.5 yo daughter.
My guess is she is acting out because her Mom is gone so much. She might not even know why she's acting out, or how to express herself. Were you a little more lenient when her Mom first started the out-of-town job? (I know I probably would have been!) She may be testing to see just how much more she can get away with.
I would sit down and have a talk with her to see how she is feeling. Try to be understanding and let her get her feelings out. I would make it clear, though, that bad behavior is not acceptable, no matter how we feel. And that you are going to stay consistent with consequences.
Does she get to talk with her Mom each night? How much longer is the job situation expected to last?View Thread
Thanks for that link. Emily has been complaining of her knees/legs hurting at night for months. The pedi said it was growing pains, but it does start to worry you after weeks and weeks of it.View Thread
Poor baby! That's a high fever. I hope she is feeling better now.
I like to send one of the girls to Grandma's house for a sleepover. Then I can really concentrate on the other girl. It lets me really focus on one of them at a time, and reminds me how much fun they really are. They also love the special "mommy and me" time, or to be spoiled by Grandma.View Thread
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Look at locker rooms -- many times adults of the same sex shower together.
I would stop bathing them together when they feel uncomfortable about it. I have 2 girls, ages 3 and 5. Our 5 year old is starting to want more privacy, so they shower separately most times. Sometimes, though, they still want to take a bubble bath together (which usually means playing in the tub with their bath toys).
In the Winter, our girls usually shower/bathe about every other day. In the Summer, it's usually every day.
I would be more concerned about the lack of teeth brushing. My DDs brush 2-3 times a day, and floss once a day.View Thread