Are they eating a large or late snack in the aftenroon? I am surprised that both children are not very hungry at dinnertime. If you were to give a snack 1-hour before dinner, I am concerned that it would further reduce their appette for dinner.
I would offer a reasonable serving size at dinner. Children should not generally have to clean their plate. However, if you do not think that they ate reasonably, then dessert should be withheld. Dessert can be given later in the evening as a small bedtime snack if they ate reasonably for dinner. From a convenience standpoint for you, I would discourage having dinner served in two halves.View Thread
It is interesting to read the articles debating whether having children makes people more or less happy. Although parenting definitely involves stress and sacrifice, it typically also deliver many precious and wonderful moments. The article in NY Magazine would suggest that the negatives outweight the positives, and the writer of this article proceeds to cite a multitude of studies to support this contention.
Parenting -- the decision to have children -- is not a hedonistic indulgence. It indeed will at times require sacrifice and induce stress -- and at these moments, the proverbial grass of the childless couple may look greener. But, rather than looking at parenting by a happiness benchmark, perhaps the focus should shift to one of fulfillment. And, the focus should also shift to the long view -- whether in hindsight, parents decide they were glad they had children.
I love kids -- which should come as no surprise from a pediatrician and father of three. That said, I also recognize that not everyone enjoys kids as much as I do, and that some adults are better suited for parenting than others.
Although I am mindful of the many sacrifices that I (and my wife) make for our children, one needs to consider not what you get, but what you give. Parents should not focus on "what is in it for me?", but rather what can I give to a child and then, by extension, the community in which we live. From this perspective, parenting can often be a selfless act -- albeit one with many rewards in both the short- and long-term.
I do not mean to suggest that parents' lives are not enriched by their children. They almost always are. But, there is a big differnence between happiness and enrichment.
Parenting -- first and foremost -- is about the child. In my view, studies that show parents to be less happy than their childless peers are focusing on the wrong benchmark. Fulfillment and enrichment are likely more important life benchmarks or considerations for parents in the long view. View Thread
Urushiol -- the oil from the poison ivy plant -- is so "potent" that the amount that would fit on the head of a pin can give a rash to 500 people. And, about a quarter-cup (4 tablespoons) could give a rash to everyone on the planet! Yikes!!!
Also, never, never, never try to get rid of poison ivy by burning it. The oil will go into the smoke and then inflame your lungs -- which can be a life-threatening emergency!
Very young kids do not typically get poison ivy. There are likely several reasons for this -- with one of the primary reasons being that you get do not typically get a skin rash with the very first exposure, but more with subsequent exposures.
Lastly, a small number of very lucky people are not sensitive to this oil and will never get a rash.View Thread
According to the CDC, "about 1%-4% of vaccine recipients develop a very mild rash or several small bumps following chickenpox vaccination." The CDC goes on to state that "In very rare instances, it may be possible for someone who gets a rash from the chickenpox vaccine to transmit vaccine virus chickenpox to another person. Persons developing a rash after vaccination should take extra precautions to avoid contact with anyone whose immune system is not working properly."
Pediatricians vary in their flexibility around immunization schedules. As stated by the PP, reseach has shown there is no link between autism and vaccinations. Nonetheless, many parents find this hard to accept.
Finding a new pediatrician -- possibly one based at a teaching hospital or children's hospital -- may be best.
Also, you mentioned your son may be heading to a dianosis of autism. I gather he has been evaluated by developmental specialists (psych, speech-lang, possibly OT, etc.). I would suggest you add a child neurologist or develop. pediatrician as well.
Ear discharge can be normal immediately following placement of the ear tubes. If the tubes have been in for more than a few days and there is discharge, this most likely signals an ear infection. (Tubes reduce, but do not eliminate the possibility of middle ear infections.)
The ear discharge is not brain fluid (assuming no major trauma with a sharp object deep into the ear canal). Confer with your pediatrician about the possible need for antibiotics by mouth and/or in the ear.View Thread
Not sure if it is possible, but it sounds like your son would be better of staying up til 8 or 9 and then going to sleep for the night.
As for the caffeine in chocolate, it is hard to know if this well-intentioned treat from your husband is contributing to the problem. The easiest thing is to switch to a different treat. In terms of caffeine and chocolate, dark chocolate has the most and white chocolate has none.View Thread
It is often recommended to limit a newborn's exposure to potential infection during the first 4 - 8 weeks of life. For this reason alone, it may be best to wait until your baby is 6-8 weeks old.
Waiting until after a month not only reduces some of the concerns asociated with exposure to infection, but nursing may be better established as will the baby's routine.
I have read that airlines will not allow a baby to fly that is less than 1 week old. I have also read some health care professionals say that babies as young as 2 weeks old can fly if needed. However, since women are at increased risk for blood clots following delivery, it may be best to wait a little while longer than 1 or 2 weeks for both mother's health and the baby's health.
Bottom line: if there is a compelling need to fly with your baby, it can be done very early, but you are likely best off waiting for at least 4 - 8 weeks. You should confer with your pediatrician for advice and check with your airline for their regulations as well.View Thread
There are many possible causes for excess appetite, and I would not treat with medication (even an over-the-counter medication) until a formal evaluation and diagnosis was made. Increased appetite could signal an impendin ggorwth spurt, or it could represent signs of a hormone (endocrine) problem such as diabetes or hyperthyroidism. Some medications such as steroids can also boost appetite. Emotional problems also can lead to over-eating. I would go to your pediatrician. A baseline weight, height, and BMI assessment should be done. Lab tests may or may not be indicated immediately but should be considered if it persists and/or if there is a marked change in your child's BMI.