You need to consider if you ever actually want to have kids. Is your life going to be over if you have kids NO. You can still have fun, you can still do things you want to accomplish if you put your mind to it. But you also have to be motivated and try harder at it. You said you never got where you wanted with your career (even before children) the only thing changing there is you have someone there that you will need to care for. For some thats more motivation. I am a woman that will say kids are fun. if you like kids. I just had my son almost 4 months ago. I went through a miscarriage about 6 months prior to getting pregnant with my son. I knew I wanted kids. I have a good job and we just bought a house. We set goals for ourself. I love my son with all my heart and i would not change it for the world. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He is my world. We still go on vacations and do fun things. You can still accomplish things even having children. My husband is actually going back to school as well as working to try and better himself and get a job he really enjoys because his current job he hates. This was the right decision for us though. We both wanted these things. At this point it doesnt sound like you really even want kids. Once pregnant some women do have change of heart and love their children more than anything while others seem to blame their kids for their life even though the child didn't have any control over it and don't end up with a connection with them at all. You don't want to put your kid through that if you decide to do it just to do it. You need to really think about if this is something you want. Things do fall in place and yes its a lot of work but to me its totally worth it. When I have a bad day and I come home to his smiling face I melt and it makes my day so much better. And to know that I created this little person with my husband is great. I was told clear back when I was 14 that I had PCOS and that there was a chance that I may never be able to have children (they put me on birth control clear back then actually the year before because I had hemorraghic cysts too so they were worried about scar tissue). So knowing I was able to conceive my little man and now I am getting to raise him is overjoying after being told I may not be able to. This is something you really need to talk to your boyfriend about and tell him how you really feel and see if this is something you really want, sounds like the boyfriend knows what he wants. But life is definately not over. I will be 25 in a little over a week. I am a computer analyst, married to a man i dated for 5 years but have been together with for 7 years and just bought a house. We plan to have one more child in a few years as well but want to enjoy our son for a few years first. My life is definately not over. If anything its just starting. You can still be an adult, you can still accomplish whatever you put your mind to it. Best wishes and good luckView Thread
First off I am sorry about your wife and that your son had to witness this. Is he in any sort of counseling? Its not your fault that he lays there crying. There is still something going on with him (maybe reliving what happened when he lays in the quiet. People tend to think to much when they are alone-atleast it is in most cases). I would not let my child lay there crying like that either. It may pass on its own but it may not. It may be something that he needs to talk to someone about to help him move past the fears at night. Because clearly there is somethng that is missing. Best wishes.I hope that he is able to overcome this and that the girls you do date will get over it. Your a good dad for being concerned and do whats necessary to keep your son comfortable.View Thread
It is safe to have two tb tests done within that time frame. I give tb tests. You should have mom talk with the administrater of the school as there should be written permission before giving any child an immunization unless they are at a doctors office in which verbal permission is okay. This is the policy in Washington State but you should contact the administrator and find out their policy. The school nurse should have verified the information prior to administering any vaccination. She is safe from a health standpoint but do watch for signs of any allergic reaction. The other thing to do is watch for a positive result with Tb skin tests as sometimes when you have them so close together they can run a false positive. If this is the case she could have a chest xray to prove she does not have the disease. Definately get a hold of the school and question there method. I would! Good Luck!View Thread
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