Unfortunately, the work here falls to you. If you and your husband both want to teach him to sleep in his own bed then you have to both enforce him being put in his bed or going back to his bed.
When I married my husband his 6 year old daughter was doing the same thing. He would converse logically with me during the day about it and say he would try to help (I absolutely can't sleep if she even comes in the room). But in the middle of the night, he doesn't fully come awake/aware and either let her in the bed or on the floor beside him.
It took a long time of me getting up in the middle of the night and taking her back to her bed; him talking with her in the day time about sleeping in her bed; correcting her when she would say WHEN I wake up I'm coming.... (instead of IF I wake up - I was convinced for a while she had her internal clock set because it was about the same time every night/morning); telling her to go back to bed and listening to her whine; and even trying to find bribes or incentives for her to stay in her own room.
She's gotten a lot better in almost 2 years, but she still sometimes tries it. More than coming in our bed now she goes to her older sister's.
There just has to be consistency. Draw the line that he sleeps in his bed and then walk the line even though it's hard. I know that's easier said than done, but I haven't found anything else that's worked.View Thread
"one of his grandparents" I'm guessing your husband's parents (most likely mother).
Resposibilty has to be learned and trust has to be earned (usually). How do you know your son is responsible and can be trusted if you don't test the waters?
By 10, kids should know what's off-limits in the home, and you say you weren't far and checked in periodically.
I wouldn't leave our 10 year old, but that doesn't mean others aren't ready to be home alone for a bit.
Someone probably needs to discuss this with the grandparent. They may have gotten the wrong impression or may just be overstepping their bounds. Either way, you and your husband are the parents and have the right and responsibility of making decisions for/with your son.View Thread