My husband loves to indulge his oldest son when it comes to his bed time. Staying up til 10pm? No problem. Midnight? Sure. The boy is an early riser and will be up at the latest 9am every morning. Usually though he is awake at between 8-830am. When he doesn't go to bed until 11, 12, 1, or later sometimes, I know he isn't getting anough sleep and rest. I've noticed that when he stays up really late, we have more trouble with him during the day. Disobedient, always back talking, more argumentitive, just his entire attitude is worse. My husband doesn't seem to notice how his 4 year old acts different when he's up late.
If I"m the one who puts him to bed earlier, say between 8 and 9pm, the boy wakes up about the same time he normally does and seems to have a much better day. I've tried telling my husband that his son needs more sleep than he's getting, but apparently he can't see what I see.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm afraid that all this staying up late will eventually affect his son's development or something. He's only 4 years old and rarely gets more than 8 hours of sleep a night.View Thread
My husband and I have been together for almost a year now and most of the time we have his two sons, ages 4 & 1, with us at our house. My older stepson has this bad habit of completely disrespecting me, my things, and our home. Recently he's begun taking all the toilet paper off the roll, balling it up and throwing it away. Also he's taken to coloring on the furniture with markers, turing off the water in the house, messing with the water heater, getting into the movies (VHS & DVD) and scratching the discs or pulling the ribbon out, and harassing my cats. Whenever I get after him about his behavior he throws tantrums, throws toys, or completely ignores what I'm saying to him. Whenever I actually get him to listen to me and I discipline him for misbehaving, my husband gives in and lets him do whatever he wants. The 4 year old also has a bad habit about hurting his little brother. I know all about sibling rivalry having 3 brothers myself, but intentionally hitting his little brother with toys, laying on top of him (there is an almost 50lb difference), and pulling and pushing him around too. I'm 2 months pregnant with mine and my husbands first child and I'm afraid of letting my oldest stepson anywhere around the baby whe it arrives.
I'm getting tired of being ignored and disrespected when it comes to my stepson and my husband giving in to him all the time. I'm tired of the one trying to teach him how to behave at home and in public and having no back up. Somedays I just want to bury my head in the pillows and not come out. I hate always seeming like the evil step mother when I discipline the child, but I refuse to let my stepson continue behaving in this manner.
I don't know what to do anymore and can't seem to get my husband to ever be on my side when it comes to upholding a punishment I've handed down. Whether it be no snack, time out, or no movies. With no back up all I can see is this boys behavior getting worse and if he isn't shown how to properly behave I'm afraid he's gonna end up getting in serious trouble in later years.
How can I handle this? I'm pretty lost right about now.View Thread