To a boy, 7 and a girl, 4. Aside from all the bad behaviors. I'm 34 weeks pregnant, and am just finding everything they do very intolerable. We have them every other week+weekend. Dad works, I stay at home and watch them. We currently just have one vehical. So I'm also having to drive across town to drop dad off at work, than rush to pick up his son, than have to pick dad up again. I'm terrified of driving, I hate driving, it completely stresses me out. But I have to.
I haven't been getting to bed till five or so in the morning. I mope all night about how I have to wake up in the morning and do it all over again. They're constant repeating everything. Screaming. Not listening. I know is expected of them, but hard to handle now that I'm so pregnant and in pain. To have to pick up after them, cook, etc. it hurts just to walk. The n sleep is making me super grouchy.
I feel like I can't do it anymore. I'm at my limit. There is no other baby sitting options though. I'm tempted to just say see ya! Going to stay at my parents house on bed rest till the baby comes! I'll let you figure out the rest...
Oh my gosh, I feel your pain! Toddlers, especially GIRLS are no easy task. They can be little divas. My finances daughter is four going on fourteen!
There's lots of great advice posted here. To add what helps me, I immediately think back to how I felt in similar situations, as a small child. When she's asking way too many dang questions, constantly repeating herself, attached to my hip acting CRAZY hyper, fighting with siblings, or being Winey. Before I respond or react in anyway. I take a REALLY deep breath in, and remember times when I was that young, and did those things. I can remember my mom getting mad at me for certain behaviors, and being SO hurt. Cause I was just a child, and did not have bad intentions, and definitely didnt want to make mommy mad. I still may be annoyed after recalling these memories, but it gives me a voice of reason that allows me to not yell or get too hostile.View Thread
Doc said it all! Post partum depression is not only suffered by the mother. The fact you're concerned about it, and even admit to being concerned that you maybe a potential danger to your child, shows you may not be as bad off as some. The ones who just sit in their misery, letting it fester, till one day they murder their child.
Are you with the mother? Is there a way for you to ask for more help from her, friends, family? I don't know if I would tell her how concerned you are with what you're going through, I'm sure she's over whelmed and dealing with her hormones, etc. you don't want to alarm her to the point of her leaving, or never trusting you.. Just sit her down tell her you've been feeling disconnected with your kid, and fear you may be going through post partum depression. Definitely don't be afraid to find a good therapist to really help you evaluate the situation, and help you out.
This sort of thing will usually pass in time. Good luck!View Thread