I wonder whether your problem with bonding with your new baby has its roots in another relationship, the one with his mother. Before our first child was born I had 100% of my wife's attention. I could count on her being there FOR ME100% of the time. After the baby came I was no longer #1. Instead of having 100% of her attention I had maybe 2%. That might be an exaggeration but at that time in my life that is exactly how I felt. I had to give that #1 spot up to a baby, and that made me frustrated and angry. I could not take that anger and frustration out on her, she might get fed up and leave me. I kept those issues bottled up inside which caused me to "feel" less than "love" for our baby.
As I am now a "Great Grandfather" and she is a "Great Grandmother" I have the luxury of wisdom tempered by time. I would have benefited greatly from professional HELP, and you will also. Do NOT try to deal with this misery on your own, GET HELP and GET IT NOW! ! When you do you will see that you have been granted a supreme position, YOU are now #1 to that little baby of yours. Take a different perspective on your relationship with your baby, BE THEBABY and see YOU through the eyes of your baby.
When the baby is lonely who does the baby look to? YOU. When the baby is hungry who does the baby look to? YOU. When the baby needs changed who does the baby look to? YOU. Of course this is hard work and comes at the most inconvenient times. This position of authority comes with a great burden of responsibility. You are responsible to take action NOW and get the help you need NOW to be the MAN and FATHER your baby deserves. It aint easy but it ISworth it. View Thread