This is kind of a complicated situation. Why is the boy's school performance poor? Does he have a learning disability? Is he depressed and his grades failing? Is he spending too much time with extracurricular activities? Does he have an outlet such as extracurricular activities? Is he active in school, get high regards for attitude but academics are difficult? Does he have friends? Are they good enough kiddos who have involved parents? Does he have too little structure? Are parents working with him and the teachers everyday? I mean, who is quizzing him at night to prepare him for a test? Who is making certain he gets to the public library to find additional info for a project?
I'm with you that you shouldn't be dangling the carrot. If the parents are concerned to the point that they are looking for an outsider to help them, which they are doing by suggesting you be the heavy, then I think they need to find a qualified counselor to help THEM come up with constructive ways to help their son.
I hope your nephew gets to spend time with you. Maybe he needs an opportunity to get away and reflect in a safe environment and be better able to go home, redirect, reapply himself.
is she meeting all otherwise appropriate developmental milestones? what does her pedi say about this? the pedi could make a referral for a developmental screening that might pick up on something. perhaps this is a sensory issue and ot could be helpful. i hope you find ways to help her. good luck.View Thread
Has your daughter had a bowel movement at all since the surgery? If not, you need to go to the ER. She needs to have an xray to see about a blockage, an ileus, find out why her gut is not moving. Hydrocodone or any narcotic drug can contribute to constipation, but this sounds much more severe than that if she hasn't had a BM at all since the surgery. I think your next step is to call the surgeon's office and your pediatrician and ask how to procede. Being constipated for several weeks is one thing; a gut not moving since surgery is a very significant other thing.