Turtle Mountain makes coconut milk called "So Delicious Coconut milk" - they make milk, yogurt, and ice cream products. All are dairy and soy-free. You may need to supplement with a vitamin or talk to an RD about other ways to get more nutrients in the diet but that would definitely be a milk alternative you could use.
There is a food allergy board here on WEbMD that is full of great advice - please come check it out:
My own daughter grew up with milk, egg and wheat allergies, now she is only allergic to milk so I feel your pain. My son is allergic to peanuts so we often use the coconut milk to keep everyone safe. GL
You might also take a look at how much sleep she is getting during the day - if it seems like a lot then cut it back so maybe she'll sleep better at night. Or, look at how long she is in the crib at night - is it too long a stretch? You could shorten that time by 15 minutes at a time until she learns to keep on sleeping instead of playing when she wakes.
I have a Joovy Caboose. I bought it on Craigslist for a steal - which is good because I don't use it a ton. But I'm really glad I have it...my 4 yr old (3 when I bought it) can ride on the back when she gets too tired to walk (like a day at the zoo etc) and the 1 yr old rides up front. I don't use it every day but I'm glad I have it.View Thread
I was driving my 4-yr old to preK this morning and out of nowhere she said "chickens don't swim!" (uh, who said they did, baby?) NO idea where that came from, but we laughed about it the whole way there.View Thread
Tax funded? No. My DH and I moved to a new state and re-arranged our lives - including selling one car and seriously downsizing our general lifestyle - to accommodate one income so I could stay home with our kids. It can be done. Let me keep my money to take care of my own family - I have made many sacrifices to be able to do so.
As for grandparents, I would never presume that my parents or ILs would care for my kids for long periods of time. It's not their job either.View Thread
The first 6 months of my DD's 4th year were hell for us. She was rude, obnoxious, talked back, pushed every social limit she could. I think it's just part of the developmental cycle. At some point she turned a corner and went back to her old self. If you go to the "parenting 4 yr old" board there is a link on the right to a discussion entitled "Is 4 the new 14"? where everyone basically notes that their kid turned into someone different for awhile during their 4th year.
I know you said he's "always been mean", but if it worse now it may just be a result of that 4 yr itch plus all of the scary changes in your household. He may just need some extra reassurance that he is still important and still loved. And don't count out that time to just mature - he may be a different kid by the time he goes to Kindergarten. And, frankly, peer pressure is a great instructor - the kids in his class won't put up with the whining for long at all lol.
You should stop in at the 4&5 yr parenting boards if you have not yet - I bet you'll get some great advice there.
SoCalSuz - Don't forget Lowe's! My kids are younger than 5 so we go to Lowe's and ring the doorbells, climb in and out of the bathtubs, name all of the colors in the paint sample section, pick out our favorite plants...that place is like Disneyland for us lol!
In nicer weather we hike a lot (we also live near National Parks), swim at the local lake and visit the many museums and the zoo in our area. Some days we just walk the dog 4 or 5 times a day just to get out. And my DD loves to hunt for bugs, so we can pass lots of time wandering around doing that together.View Thread
A word of caution - if you are going to nuke the rice bags make sure that anything you wrap them in (ziplocs or whatever) is microwave safe . I would also stress that you verify with the OT that the weight will be helpful (if you don't know already) - in my experience it actually agitates some kids instead of calming them. Hope things get better soon.