I have to say I have an intact son. I argued long and hard to leave him intact for a variety of reasons. His father is Jewish, so it was a lot of discussion. I think the deciding factor for him was he was in grad school and the insurance we had considered circumcision cosmetic surgery so didn't cover it.
My son is very glad we didn't circ him and tends to think it a bit barbaric. He is squeamish in general about thinking about any sort of thing that would make him bleed. Add to that his statement that no one would admit to looking at another person's penis in a locker room. He did however say that unless they have a religious reason for being circ'd, that the split is pretty even between cut/uncut boys at his high school.
He has never had a problem as far as cleaning, UTIs or infections.
My father was (reportedly, I never saw him naked) not circumcised and never had an issue with it and my mom had no yeast infection issues.
Interestingly, we got to talking about this in the car with my older step-son who is circ'd on the way to a concert last spring. His mother was in the car and she is very pro-circumcision but hadn't really argued it with me before since she knows I am a wee bit passionate about it. Her son said that he would have rather it been left up to him, that having body modification without his permission felt a bit odd and troubling to him at times. His mom remains unapologetic and pro-circumcision though.
It really is a parent's decision though and neither has a clear cut yes or no...View Thread
I am pretty much anti-antibiotic without proof, just because I end up with complications from taking them. I also have a sibling who is antibiotic resistant after years of taking them willy-nilly.
I think posters and handouts for parents explaining ways to help a child feel better without antibiotics go a long way. Parents don't necessarily want a magic pill for making their child feel better, I think we just suffer when our kids feel sick.
I think a doctor endorsing alternative ideas can help a lot.
I have noticed with my mother (I am her caregiver and she lives with me) that if the doctor agrees with my non-medicated methods of helping her various conditions. (healthier diet, more fiber, more exercise, etc.) she is far more responsive to them. Even with things like colds and viruses, it makes a big difference. Last year, she insisted she needed an antibiotic because she is diabetic and has all these health problems. She had a cold. We all had the cold. An antibiotic wouldn't fix the issue. She made an appointment with the doctor. We went in. I explained during the recitation of symptoms that yes, we all had this virus and here is what I thought would work. (handwashing, Tylenol, plenty of liquids, tincture of time, rest, vapo-rub, etc) The doctor agreed and suggested an OTC cough syrup appropriate for her. She asked about antibiotics (since "it always turns into bronchitis") and she had "green slime" and the doctor explained to her what I had already told her--the antibiotic wouldn't help and could hurt when she really needed it. (as well as increase the chance of yeast infections since she was prone to them when she first moved here and her sugar was out of control) She grumbled, but since then she has not wanted to go in to see the doctor for the same set of symptoms.
No, she isn't a child, but she is an example of an adult who does want the magic pill but needs to understand and be reminded that they only work on a certain type of illness--not all of them.View Thread
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Be sure to call the doctor if the symptoms worsen in any case or if you are unsure.View Thread
When my children were little they saw a doctor that had crayons for coloring on the exam table paper. That helped.
Other than that, I think careful scheduling when possible helped--no well child checks during nap time or right before dinner if I could avoid it. Of course, you need to find a doctor who does well child checks during a good time of day.
With teens and tweens, I find it harder. One of my children seriously has a doctor phobia and turns pale when you just mention an appointment. He's 16 and I fear he will become that adult male that never goes to the doctor.
With the girls, I wish there was something I could do to help though. They hate going to the doctor because the doctor tells one she is overweight and one she is underweight. The doctor doesn't say it in any way that a rational human would hate--but middle school girls and some women hear weight information badly. Add to that the fact that one of my girls is having some irregular menstruation and needs to talk to the doctor about it--but won't--you have a worried mother.
So much time gets spent on the toddler/young elementary school set and making them feel comfortable at the doctor's office, but not so much the older children. Preschoolers get over it and sure it makes a parent's (and presumably doctor's) heart ache to see a child upset at the doctor, but it doesn't last.
But once the kids grow out of stickers, lollipops, and toys in the waiting room--it seems no one cares that these children do have anxiety about talking to the doctor, about shots, about the strange equipment, added to the issues of modesty, to whether they feel comfortable without a parent or with a parent in the room, etc.View Thread
This is the forever question. My kids vary so much between their "sick" signals it can be hard to tell whether they should stay at home.
My son commonly has headaches and a runny nose...but doesn't otherwise seem sick. He goes to school anyway. When he is really sick, he has this "look" that I can't exactly explain. If he throws up, he definitely is staying home.
Two of my daughters are prone to "nervous" stomachs and get bellyaches when stressed, angry, upset. Vomiting doesn't mean a day off for them unless there seems to be something else going on.
Of course, this backfired on my ex-husband two years ago. Youngest claimed her stomach hurt before school, he sent her anyway. She ended up throwing up in the classroom and getting sent home. (to be fair, it was after another child had thrown up in the classroom)
Another child hides being sick like a wounded animal. (seriously: she broke her thumb skating and we didn't know it until the next day. She broke her wrist and by the time we got her to the hospital we all thought she was fine and we were wasting our time. She has gotten up and ready for school with a 102 fever.) If she actually claims sickness or starts going to bed super early, then I generally assess what is going on and keep her home.
Does anyone else get these mixed signals from children about illness or is my family just weird?View Thread