I completely understand where you're coming from, when my daughter was 6, she acted very similar (((((Hugs))))).
First off, I am no Doctor, just a mom who has and is raising 4-daughters and had a lot of life experiences.....and from reading your post, I would say there is more going on here than ADD/ADHD.
Have you had a discussion in person with the Pediatrician? Just curious what he/she said....
I am not sure what state you're in, (some states have better resources than others), but I would seek out a "Pediatric Neuropsychology" exam from an expert who works with children. This exam will give you a better understanding of what your daughter is dealing with. Here is a link that better explains the test....... http://www.div40.org/pdf/PedNeuropscyhBroch3.pdf
In the meantime, I would also move towards having the school help her. You ask the school district to do their own set of evaluations to set up accommodations/help while your daughter is in school. Your daughter may need a smaller class, or other services that the school is required to provide if your daughter qualifies.
I know this sounds very overwhelming, but your daughter deserves to feel better and thrive. You sound like a caring, loving mother, and I know how awful it is to watch our children struggle. Take care, and write back if you need any additional support or have questions! -Kathleen PView Thread
Parenting a sensitive or challenging child can be confusing and difficult.
You are spot on about keeping your voice and actions calm - spanking or yelling will not help, and most of the time make the situation worse.
A child as young as 2 1/2 can not say why he is mad or upset, instead he throws a tantrum when something does not go the way he wants.
I would encourage you to speak with his pediatrician about his behaviors. Parenting classes may be helpful for you and your wife too - that way you're both on the same page as far as what "tools" to use when your son has a melt-down.
Hi, How wonderful of you to step in and raise your Grandchildren - I'm sure it's not easy!
In my opinion, I believe it would be best to have your grandson evaluated by a professional. A child psychologist who's specialty is young children. To medicate a child this young can be tricky and takes a specialist. You speak of your daughter and her drug addiction - this would make me lean more towards mental illness......biploar or depression ? What about the children's father? Is he without addiction?
There are non-stimulant types of treatment for AD(H)D. My daughter tried a few - unfortunately they didn't not help her, but its trial and error, what works great for one person, may be a disaster for the next - another reason you need someone other than a "typical" pediatrician trialing meds on your grandson.
I will paste a few links for you to explore.......
I believe parenting classes can be really helpful in a case such as this.
I would search for "positive discipline" type classes in your area. If you're having difficulty finding any, then I would search for family therapists who have a clinic (not a single office), with multiple therapists / doctors and give them a call and ask where you could take some classes.
When something starts out of the "blue" like this, I think you have a right to be concerned.
Maybe something happened - an incident that has made your daughter not want to be alone? Is there anything you can think of? Has she gone away / slept away from you this summer? Has anything changed - or will be changing soon that she knows about?
Sometimes its difficult to figure out what drives a sudden change of behavior. Have you gently sat down with your daughter and talked to her about her feelings / being scared?
Does she seem "typical" in the day time? Any red flags there?