This does seem out of the realm of normalcy, but the reality is, you probably can't do much to change it.
For some reason, the mom feels the need to baby her son - maybe out of guilt, maybe because she feels he needs it....who knows.??
My best suggestion would be to find a really good LMFT, one who works with children and families. I would suggest to your wife that you all go in for family counseling.
Your wife may not want to change though - so its ultimately up to her to realize that she is enabling her son to be too dependent on her. I could guarantee that if this just goes on and on without professional intervention - that home life will get worse...for you all.
Good luck, its a tough situation. Take care, -KathleenView Thread