So... I am 24 and I dont have any children of my own, but I recently got married to a man who has 2 children and so now I have two step-kids. I have a few best friends, that are like sisters to me, cause growing up I never had a real sister of my own, just a big brother. Dont get me wrong my brother is awesome, thats not the point of this though.
My Friend is 32 and has a 13 yo daughter, a 8 yo step-daughter, an 8 yo son, and a 2, a 1, and an 8 month old baby boys. I have known her for a bout 6 years and she was an awesome mom when she only had two. Her son and daughter listened and never used poor language. Now with her 3 boys she had one after another she reminds me of the little old lady who lived in a shoe had too many kids didnt know what to do.... I go to her house and it wreaks of dirty diapers, there have been a few times I asked her to immediately go outside to have a cigarette cause her house made me gagg and I didnt know how to tell her with out hurting her feelings. I feel like Im over stepping a boundary by saying anything to her, but she is always venting about her kids to me, and I care about her, and her kids, and dont like to see them having a hard time.
Her daughter lost her virginity about a month ago and already broke up with that boy and has another boyfriend. My friend was soooo upset, but then, she lets her daughter have a sleepover with her new boyfriend?! When I was 13 having a sleepover with my GIRL friends was questionable!!! She is on birth control but... I just... cant imagine her having sex she is too little... and her 8 yo son is really interested in sex and drinking and smoking and I was wondering where that was coming from, and I think its partly his older sister and mainly the television they allow him to watch. I was absolutely astounded I went to her house for dinner and her son announces she let him watch Hostel. Hostel is an extremely inapproprriate movie for a boy his age to watch!
I am so bothered by her childrens behavior because one I care about them, and two I have my own step kids now, and she keeps telling me her son and step daughter really want to be friends and play together but my step-children are so innocent compaired to her kids, I dont want them tainting them! my stepson is 12 and my step daughter is 9, they are such good kids, and they are not eager to grow up too fast.
Is it way out of bounds to even feel so strongly about her parenting? Should I say something to her? Can I help her? Has anyone been in a similar situation?
We were drinking one night and her son woke up and came upstairs and begged her for a shot of tequila and she gave it to him in hopes it would turn him off, then he pretended he was drunk, and I was not even comfortable drinking with the kids there... I dunno what to do except maybe space myself from her, though I would rather not lose an old friend...View Thread
Im sorry to hear you are having a hard time with your son, I have a friend whos son got in a fight and was suspended from kindergarten for a week for hitting a boy in the eye and biting. I think he is doing better now, but she is worried the other kids are picking on him cause he said it was self defense. I guess you and mom dont want to get together and collaberate some behavioral structures for him to have in both home? Is mom in denial about it?View Thread
Wow I really like Knowledge2010s question because they are the first person Ive met to offer positive recognition towards our dear president. I really like president Obama, and think hes done a fine job. And I totally agree that you dont see as many parents taking their kids out to do such great activities, that encourage activity and bonding. In my personal opinion the answer to that question is: Fun activies are over priced, parents are over worked and under paid. I have a friend who is only 8 years older then me (I dont have any children) she has 7 kids, her 7 year old son, is rather chubby, and I asked why she doesnt get him into sports, and her answer was because she is unable to transport him to practice and games as she does not own a car, and she can not afford the registration fees. He rother children are all very fit and thin looking cause she feeds them healthy, he just really doesnt get anough activity, and I agree that maybe they should increase PE in school, as thats his only free opportunity he'd have to exercise.View Thread