I think you and your husband are doing a great job about discussing what bi-sexuality means. You may not need a therapist, just a frank discussion between you and your son about what it means and your opinion on whether to act on any feelings of sexuality. Our policy in our home is no sex before marriage - may not be popular by everyone in this thread - which is fine with me, because I don't live with you all; but,our goal has always been for our children to mature and come into relationships without the added stress and strain of the sex factor. We have 4 children, three are adults now and our youngest just turned 13.
I concur with many others that indicating "bi" beliefs is big right now - not sure why, and is not the issue. The point is to be able to discuss what your son is feeling and for him to know he can come to either of you to discuss, ask questions, and be supported. Education is important, the social part is sensitive and needs to be handled carefully.
I also support the no sleep over decision. We did the same thing with our kids if anything came into question. Hanging out, is great, and two of my kids were very much followers and it was important to us to monitor what was going on with their friends to protect, insulate, and support our kids. Overprotective to some... but again, these are our kids and we want them to be able to come to us with questions, discuss their feelings, fears, concerns, and stresses. Teen suicide numbers are scary, kids are so sensitive and impressionable - this could a discussion about any topic, say shoplifitng, or cheating, getting a job, college.... hang in there View Thread