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Reply: 12 year old step son pees and poops his pants

My son is 13. He doesnt exactly have the same problem, but its more like he just cannot...

Posted by itslaura

My son is 13. He doesnt exactly have the same problem, but its more like he just cannot "hold' himself at all when he has to have a bowl movement. You know that urge you feel when you have to go, well if he is not near a toilet in 1-5 minutes it just comes out.
One prime example was when we were going to a family function bout 6 months ago. We were on the road not even 2 minutes from the house we were going to & he said he had to go I said haing on just 2 more curves & were there & he said " I cant too late" I have to admit I was a little frustrated cause we just drove for 45 mins & had to go back home for him to clean up & change.
He also does the same thing when he vomits. He sees someone eating something he doesn't like & it makes him sick to his stomach. He'll get that look & just throw up all over hisself & his plate. Thats one reason I dont take him out to eat anymore. That stopped with me a few years back. He will still do it at home occasionally, but hes use to the way we eat. The school automatically thinks hes sick every time he vomits, took me many years to convince them otherwise.
The Dr told me he has a week colon in regards to his bowl movement issues, so I know thats not his fault, he just needs to go when he gives the word. As far as the vomit issue, the dr only told me that was purely mental & he is just going to have to accept the fact that he cannot live in a box when it comes to eating in front of other people & he is being selfish. I have to agree.
Another thing that I deal with too when it comes to the bowl issue, I cannot get that boy to wipe till he is clean. He just thinks one swipe with the TP & hes done. So there is ALWAYS feces in his underware. Some times large amounts & I am not washing that with the rest of my clothes!! EEEWWW!!! I make a "load of shame" that is specifically for his underware after he washes them out by hand, which he hates!! My mother thinks that is cruel. but I have noticed since I have started doing this he does clean himself better, so maybe its working.
I do believe a family dr or even psychiatrist could help you get a better understanding of what is gonig on in your step sons life. Do you or your husband have employe assistant programs at work? They help not only the employees, but the family too. Just a suggestion if you choose to speak with a counsler. Good luck to you... It will get better!!

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