Have you taken her to a doctor, pediatrician or counselor? Sitting down with a neutral person to explain what these drugs can do, how they can affect her, the consequences involved with stealing and consequences of sex may be a start.
The articles referenced above and Dr. Benaroch's link may provide good talking points.
I am so sorry your family is going through this, please keep us posted about how you are doing. Sharing your experience (what works and what doesn't) really helps others in this community.
The sitcom interpretation may be exaggerated, but sitting around the holiday table surrounded by grandparents, aunts, uncles, in-laws and teens can be quite entertaining. Or should I say - create interesting, uncomfortable moments and conversation.
I live in Florida, if the weather was nice we would eat holiday meals on the porch using paper tablecloths and napkins. My great aunt Dor would start tearing the tablecloth apart toward the end of the meal. This would erupt into a huge paper fight! Some family members would be appalled, the teens would love it and retaliate. It was interesting to see our friends and dates reaction to this fiasco.
Share your families tradition and sitcom moments. How do your teens handle the holiday table?
You may have read through this very long discussion to see many different responses to this situation.
Regardless of whether or not this is a phase, I encourage you to do as many have suggested and be loving, supportive, and respectful to your daughter. This also means she should be respectful of your rules of dating, whether her date is male or female.
Hoping for good communication and understanding, ElizabethView Thread
I understand what you're saying and you do make perfect sense.
I personally have never subscribed to the sticks and stones mantra. Words do hurt and sting and can cause just as much pain. Bullying should not be tolerated, please talk with your family to let them know how much these words and actions are hurting you.
If you feel you can not talk with your family, I can't stress enough how important it is for you to talk with someone. Please network with the counselors or teachers at your school and look through some of the links on our crisis page .
The Hope Line Network offers online chat and teen to teen counseling. Call The National Suicide Prevention Hotline to find out what resources are available in your area. The Abuse Victim Hotline has a confidential IM service.
I can't tell you how impressed I am with you for reaching out for help - time to take the next step and find resources in your area.
Please let us know that you have talked with someone and you are safe, ElizabethView Thread
We're happy to announce the launch of a new tool here at WebMD that we think our members will enjoy -- WebMD Answers .
While community is a place to get to know your fellow members and experts on a deep and supportive level, sometimes folks just want to ask a question and receive an answer. That's what WebMD Answers is all about.
Do you have friends that you've tried to get to join you here in community, but they feel they don't have the time to spend? Maybe Answers is a tool they can use for quick access.
Anyone can ask a question, and anyone can answer a question. Experts, partner organizations, staff and moderators will also be responding to some questions.
We invite you all to go in and check it out today. If you have any questions about this new tool, post them here and we'll try to help you out.
I am so sorry you have been trying to handle this on your own and so proud of you to recognize you need to ask for help.
You have been given some great advice from the moms here and I also want to encourage you to network even more, please reach out and call a crisis line.
If you search around some of the crisis links you will see that you are not alone. It may be easier to pick up the phone and talk with someone. Talk to someone about how to talk with your parents and how to find a doctor or counselor to help you.
This article, How to Talk to Your Parents , doesn't have all the answers, but it does give a few ideas to use to begin opening up and talking to your parents.
Please check back in to let us know how you are doing, ElizabethView Thread