BC does have other medical uses such as helping with heavy periods and menstrual cramps.
And being a parent is not always the last word in whether a child will have sex. You can tell your kids the importance of waiting until you older. You can tell them the risks of disease and pregnancy and how that can completely turn your world upside down until you are blue in the face. You can be respectful and answer all their questions. You can put your foot down and been adversarial about pre-marital sex. But in the end, teens and preteens have very poor decision making skills. That part of the brain is one of the last to develop and they are subject to a flood of hormones that they are trying to come to grips with and it may not matter how much you teach and preach to your child. It doesn't help that TV shows and movies are loaded with consequence free sex.
I'm not saying I'm going to put my 12 year old on birth control, but depending on the environment where you live, peer pressure and the fact that 'everyone is having sex' it's better than having your 12 year old get pregnant.
As to the friend's daughter and the older man, sounds like the friend really doesn't care about her daughter's well being. That man should have been turned into the cops.View Thread
The two of you need to have some joint counseling and look into separate counseling as well. The problem with abuse is that the abuser is a master manipulator. Kudos to you for getting away from him - many women can't make that first step.
As to your daughter, many abusers make their victims feel they are getting what they deserve. If you called you names and degraded you in addition to the physical violence, your daughter is impressionable enough that she may have come to believe his words, that you were weak, worthless and deserved to be beaten. I'm not saying he used these exact words, but that is typically what the abuser will say directly or imply. Because she believes what her father said, she likely doesn't have much respect for you. So you need to get her in to see a counselor who specializes in abuse because directly or indirectly, she is also his victim. If she were to live with him, she would be setting herself up to end up in abusive relationship because she thinks that's normal.View Thread
I checked wikipedia (I know, not always a perfect source) but it seems that promise ring has come to also refer to purity rings - which do mean no sex until marriage. I suppose that's probably regional with promise ring sounding less prudish than purity ring or chastity ring.View Thread
Sounds like some family counseling might be of use and possibly even individual level counseling and marriage counseling for you and DH to get you on the same page (which may be addressed in family counseling).
Parental divorce is tough and remarriage is even tougher because kids don't say in who their parent remarries. If you can't get DH onboard with counseling, go yourself to help get some clarification and parenting tools.
Blended families are not easy and it's more difficult because you both brought kids into the marriage.View Thread
I do think that counseling - family counseling - would be a good idea. It would also be a good idea for him to take some sort of life skills classes through a community college or some other resource the counselor could provide.
You don't say which European country she comes from. This can provide some insight because each country has different cultures. For example, in Italy it has become very common for a male child to be coddled by his mother until quite late, even into his 30s. Some parents are okay with this while others want their sons to grow up and leave the nest even though they have not been given the tools to do so.
But it is also possible she has developed an unhealthy relationship with her son because he became the 'man of the house' and the fact that he loves her without question.View Thread
You need to get her to a child psychologist who specializes in adolescents and eating disorders. She has asserting her individuality, but in a very destructive way. You may also want to be prepared for family counselling depending on what the psychologist finds so that all of you can learn coping skills.
I don't see that you would need the individual Measles, mumps, rubella ones if you have the MMR. You should call the school to confirm.
As for the varicella one, cost is going to vary based on where you live, what sort of insurance you have, etc. Some cities have community health clinics where you can get vaccines - or at least they did back in the early 90s. Not sure if stuff like that got the ax with recent budget cuts. From the CDC site their charge is roughly $70 while it's $83 in the private sector. If you are still on your parents' insurance, insurance should cover it.View Thread
You should really take her to her doc to see if it is a yeast infection before treating at home. Once it's diagnosed, your doc can tell you proper prevention steps. It could also be pinworms - which yeast infection treatments won't help. Most yeast infections also cause discharge, so if she's not having any, it is likely pinworms or contact dermatitis.
Some tips are to make sure she's wearing cotton panties and that her pants aren't too tight (such as no leggings). If you aren't using a dye and perfume free detergent, you should switch and she should also refrain from taking bubble baths or using scented body wash. If she's been going swimming, she needs to change out of the wet swimsuit right away and not after a car ride home.
I know she may seem young, but perhaps she might prefer tampons. They do make slim ones for girls. Though i recall trying to insert that first tampon being pretty difficult and time consuming, but living in Texas, it was the only way to get to the pool that time of the month and got rid of the bulk when wearing shorts. of course, if she did use tampons, the issue would be changing them regularly which she might not be ready for since you can get TSS from wearing them too long.
Maybe she'll come around once her habit starts taking a financial hit on her purchasing ability for things like movies, snacks and whatnot with friends. You and dad just need to be on the same page about not giving her extra money for things. If she spent all her money on TP and then wants to go to the movies with her friends and can't afford it that might be the motivation to use the freely provided feminine hygiene products.
Eventually she should care and maybe once some of her other friends start their periods she will feel more comfortable. part of her problem might be she's the first/only of her friends to have started and she doesn't like being different.
have you given her a book on the subject? I'm sure there are some good ones out there that can provide some answers and information without her having to have an embarrassing conversation with mom.