Still, there is a practical issue in this matter. If a child was a pyromaniac, and was mentally diagnosed with it, and he or she was consistently burning household items, should you just let it go as a medical problem? No, that would be a financial burden among other things. Same goes for the diapers. For whatever reason, whether the child is soiling themselves from a physical condition, mental condition, or for other reasons (and saying that no child would do this for other reasons is just naivety, I've known many kids to consciously do stupid or odd things, and I have know many adults that do as well), the use of diapers in this situation is more efficient and more sanitary. Underwear aren't meant for that. Additionally, whatever the reason may be, personal cleanliness should be maintained to the best of the child's ability. When there are several pair of soiled undergarments cooking in their room there is an issue. If it was a physical problem, they'd be embarrassed and try their best to hide it themselves probably, so things that are out in the open are likely mental and/or something as simple as lack of consideration (which is possible). Furthermore, mental disorders, although valid, aren't a cure-all excuse. I have social anxiety, and I would sew a telemarketing agency for not hiring me when I refused to make phone calls would I? Children need to learn not to hide behind their issues, and the codling that you suggest most certainly would facilitate it. Sorry for going off, but the way you were addressing the poster and her decisions as a mother were highly insensitive and judgmental, or at least that's how I interpreted them.View Thread