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its mostly my 8 year olds and its things like Jew, retard, idiot, mexican, indian. Laughing at them when I scold them or they get in trouble and it INFURIATES me. His dad, my husband, says nothing. Not a knock it off, grow up, shut up, NOTHING. And I am at the end of my rope here. I do not want to lower myself to his maturity level, but i have thought long and hard about doing it to him, yes i know it is NOT right, but my first reaction is to defend my children and his dad isnt doing or saying anything to him. He also has alot of accidents OR he acts like he does nothing; for example, when i am not looking he will pull my 8 year olds hair and when my son tells me, his son says 'what are you talking about, your crazy, i didnt touch you' while my sons crying or rubbing the area that was hurt. his dad says nothing at all. I dont know what to do. ( ps-his sons live with us ) i just know i cant take much more, and im gonna flip out with a tongue lashing or worse something physical and its not my place. Ive told my husband it bothers me, he says its picking, that its all normal. Well to me it is not normal and i dont know how to explain to him i want these things stopped! I have tries and he gets totally defensive like its an attack and I am perfectly calm and nice about it. I even think that my husband teases my younger children sometimes when im not paying attention because my twins have mentioned little things but he never does it in front of me so idotn know if they are embelishing ( my twins son has adhd, and teachers believe my twins daughter may also). THey are both overly extremely sensitive to others so I dont know what to do, whether to flip on him or not. If i question my husband, we usually end up fighting. 99% of our fights are about his kids, or hes not admitting to what he knows ( until he calms down ) happens and defends them even in wrong. I need help. I will post about my 14 yr old ss in another discussion...these things keep me awake at night ( its 437 am right now ) and i love my husband, weve only been together 2 years, and i dont want to throw this relationship away but i cant live this way.
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