Hello. I know right where you are coming from. My son is six and will be seven soon. We have been doing this since he was two. The primary doctor said it was a control issue. Like when kids only eat chikcen nuggets because they have something in life they can control. We have worked with social workers, nurses, etc at both of his schools. We have done punishments, charts, bribes, etc. The doctor told us we were putting to much into it and to ignore it and make him clean himself up. He is. He cleans his underwear and himself. And has been for two years now. He will sit in it for hours and I mean hours if we don't say anything. He has no friends at school because of it and the family doesn't want to be around him. We have stopped taking him places and he has missed out on bday parties and fun stuff because we are sooo embarassed. And it is so unsafe for the other kids to be around it. His dad and I are not together and have had some rough relationships. So I thought maybe that was the issue. A deep seeded issue. Emotional one where he was scarred. We are on our 3rd therapist who comes to the house once a week. As far as I know, he has never been abused. I have not and I have seen no signs. I have never left him with anyone I didn't fully trust and have checked him and asked him before just to be safe. I have kept my eyes and ears open to catch anything. And nothing! He is a happy kid. Very happy. Even the therapists have tried to dig and got nowhere. They have NO IDEA what it could be. We have taken him to a specialist who said he had some blockage because he might have been holding it and gave us meds but said it was not fully medical. That after the meds worked through there for a few days he'd be ok. That he should take it for awhile after just in case his muscles were loose but that they didn't feel too loose and it wasn't the issue. She did a full rectal!! Which means he does not have encopresis like we thought he might have. The medicine made him poop a lot but didn't help him be able to feel anything. He just pooped it out onto the floor and ruined more undies and pants and had to stay at home for days. We lowered the dose...with permission from the dr....and still nothing helped. He says he can't feel it. He was busy. He didn't know. He is scared the toliet will eat him. Etc. Every excuse.....he has it!! We found out he has ADHD and that doctor thought the meds would help. So far....nada!! We are going to see if she can up his dose anyways because he hasn't calmed down so we will see how that goes. And this is everyday. Every time. Not an accident once in awhile. Like a morning, noon and night thing. All the time!!!!!!! I am at my end. So I am right there with you!! I feel like I am the worst mom ever!!!!! Like I have failed him. I cry all the time and when he hugs me I feel worse....because I don't want him to because he smells awful. We can't even have a family dinner. And it isn't gushing. Just always there!!!! Seems like there is no end.View Thread
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