Why feel guity? He needs it and your providing him with what he needs. Your helping him prevent diabetes, obesity, and blood pressure problems. Your giving him examples of good health and hopefully good habits.
Start now and keep at it. They may not like it, but it's good for all youngesters. Just because you haven't done it before, doesn't mean you can't start it now.
What is your daughter's age. Young children can have upset stomachs from soda, diet, or stress. School is very stressful at any age.
If she's older (mid to late teens), do a home pregnancy test. One of the 1st trimester difficulties is constant nausea. My ex wife loves Chinese food, but couldn't eat it when she was pregnant. Just the thought of Chinese food made her sick.
You can never be to over protective of a 15 yr old girl. At 15, all children are raging hormones. Your daughter will be no exception. Unless you want to be a single GRANDFATHER, supporting your child and grandchild, protect, protect, protect. Remember when you were 15-19. You sniffed everything your could. A girls's protective daddy meant you didn't get any and your girl daughter needs that right now. She'll challenge you and "hate" you, but in the end they are still your daughters and they'll alway love you. Welcome to the worry stage of teenagers. My mother always said, "Boys are easier. You only have one penis to worry about. Girls, you have to worry about every penis in town." She was right. My daughter is 25.
So far it sounds like you did the right thing. True your daughter can't become pregnant, but she should not expose her exploits to her much younger sister.
Love your daughters, but talk to your daughters. Separately and together. You'll need to accept your daughters sexual preferance, but she has to respect your boundries.
Yes, your daughter and her friend has deliberately disrepected you. I would talk to the girl's parents and let them know what happened and how you feel. You need to let the girls and the parents know that the girls just spat in your face and it won't be tolerated. Just because your daughter has a female partner it's no different that if she had a male partner. Sex is Sex, whether heterosexual or homosexual and an 11 year old should be involved. PERIOD.
I would also have her checked for STD's. Just to be on the safe side.
Hi Dancing, I'm glad you stopped drinking and took charge of your life. I'm the son of a drunk. He's still a drunk. I didn't have the social media outlets when I was 17 and I'm betting you didn't either.
We were taught by our parents to keep things quiet. Today's generation does not have those guidelines and thinks everything has to be out there. Unfortunately, you have an angry daughter with no social awareness to how ignorant it makes her appear.
You have 2 ways to deal with this. One is to answer each and every comment or statement with an appropriate response. Advising her also how this is showing she's being childish and throwing trantrums on the social media for all the world to see. The second way is to ignore it all.
Either way it's going to be rough. Your not going to get this "square." EVER. As an alcoholic, you hurt everyone around you. It will take a LOT of time, energy, and heart ache to help get it better. She has to forgive you. She's not going to make it easy and she's still a child. If you can't make her get counceling for her anger, you get counceling for yourself, so you don't backslide. As angry and hateful as she is now, it's better than the bottle.
I don't facebook. I'm not an alcoholic. I'm not a bad person, but I have a daughter, who is angry at the entire world and feels she has to put everything out there. I answered her comments one time through a friends face book page. I didn't cuss or use any foul suggestions. I did get my point across and got a lot positive responses from a lot of her "friends." They told her to shut up and lay off dad. I also got an apology from my daughter.
We're the adults and we are suppost to be smarter and more mature. If I remember right, part of the 11 steps has something to do with forgiveness. The first person you have to forgive is yourself. You made mistakes and are trying to fix them. That's the best we can do. JUST DON'T BACK SLIDE. As the son of a drunk, if you back slide, YOU DESERVE WHAT EVER SHE GIVES YOU. Children of alcoholics are not to forgiving.
Your daughter is still being a floor mat. She's still being manipulated by the ex-husband and your grandchild is suffering from it. The courts seen that your grandchild should only be exposed to this loser for 10 hours a week. Your daughter needs to adhere to it. It's not to portray her as the villian, but as a caring and loving parent, who wants to protect her child.
I would suggest counceling for both and a guardian ad litem for the grandchild. Protecting our children is always the number one thing in our lives. An abusive ex can pound sand and get nothing. He hasn't anything coming.
From a father of a 24 yo stepdaughter, I can tell you. She won't listen to you. I can offer some advise. If she's to meet his parents, you meet his parents also. You tell them what you heard and tell them of your concerns. If they don't show enough concern, then do what you can to stop it. DON'T let her have her own way and don't let her find out on her own.
"Here baby, try this. It won't hurt you. I promise."
You now have a pregant teen, a drug abuser, or a depressed, diseased, suicidal child. You pick. This is self discovery.
I was lucky. She didn't get pregnant (she can't now due to the STD that sterilized her), She got off the drugs, and she still can't hold a job, or can get the mental health help she needs. Both myself and my ex wife are to blame. I worked 3rd shift and her mother was useless for her. I told her (ex) a couple of times the keep the boys out. I would roll in at about 7am with the latest one still sleeping in her room. When I split with my ex, she threw her daughter out. She was 18 and had 5 months of High School left. She never got to finish.
This is not a scare tactic, but a wake up call. My mother had 4 sons and 1 daughter. She always stated "with a son you have to worry about one penis, with a daughter you have to worry about every penis in town."
Sounds like you have an 11 year old with a lot of anger. He's mad at mom. He can do no right, so all he'll do is wrong. Now she has bf who is everything and son gets nothing. He also spends enough time at your house that he has his own room.
Here are some questions you need to ask yourself: Where is home to him? Who is mom to him? Is he being held accountable for his actions? Is he given responsibility and recognition for good things? Is his mom so far up bf's butt, that she can't see she's hurting her child? Is there outside factors for the boy to be angry? Abuse, Bullied, learning disability.
There are a lot of questions you and your sister need to discuss and visit with the boy. Talk to your sister first. Let her know what your seeing. Remind her, her child/children come first. That's was the number one rule for me and my gf.
It's not jumping to conclusions. As you stated, your a nudist family. The normal for you is a free and open family bed. People who are not nudist family, this action of having a 10 yr old boy and an 11 yr old girl sleeping together is inappropriate. These are not brother and sister, but are from 2 different families.
I'm a 50 yr old man and when growing up had cousins and step family who slept over. You may have shared a bed with the same sex child, but never opposite sex children. I know at 10, I was sexually curious and so was my son. The "older" girl would have been something we would want to see. Possible even touch.
By the way, at 10 yrs old, don't you remember playing "Doctor" with other children. I know I do. Now they call it sexual assult when a kindergardener to kisses another. Oh how far we've come. We have to protect our children from showing good emotions and love.
Again the ex-wife was WRONG. Legally and morally wrong. Check your state statues for divorces.
As a nudist family, I believe your family dynamics are fine for you. As a non-nudist family, this is not acceptiable. As I stated before, we have to protect our children. Love, care for and nuture them with everything we've got.
No your not to strict. No your rules didn't make your son rebel. They are there to try to make sure he is safe. Look at who he hangs with and what their family is like.
I have 2 children. A 24 year old and a 16 year old. I was still married to my ex when my oldest (girl) was 15. The ex harped that I was only the girls step-dad. I married my ex when the girl was 1.5 years old. I was the only dad she knew. She was a good girl until about 14. I was working 16 hrs plus and her mother let her run. She went through the drugs and boys and partying. I separated with my ex when she was 18. My ex threw her out before she could finish school. I could only do so much with her. I consider her lucky. No kids, no jail, and infections. I lost a lot of sleep and still love her.
My son is now 16. He's now stretching the boundries. The difference is I can talk to him. He has a cerfew, he has to let me know where he's at and who he's with. We have discussed what to do if stupid stuff is going on. I only work 8 hours a day. He knows about girls and sex. He's been in trouble with stupid stuff, being late, not beinging where he's suppost to be. He knows what life would be like if he screws up.
Have him sit down with an adult friend, teacher, or pastor. Try to find out what's going on in his head. Your not failing him if your trying to help him. If gangs are a problem in your area, get him to a intervention of some kind. Your church, school, or law enforcement should have something to help you. It's better to stop the problems while they are small.
Have patients and understanding for him. He's 15 and he's changing from mommy's little boy to a young man. It's hard for both of you. Good LuckView Thread