Your son is 17 and puberty has hit, physically he's old enough. Mentally is always another story. I agree with anon475 that it's performance anxiety. Tell him to relax and take his time. He doesn't need to rush in to fatherhood. If he thinks on it to hard, then it will fire off to soon or no wood. Let him know there are other ways to please a woman that doesn't get her pregnant and still pleasing for him. Talk to him and ask him if he has been able to rise to the occasion for self enjoyment. If he has, then it will rise again for her. Always keep an open mind and let him know your opinions and beliefs. He's your son and our son's do listen to us. Good LuckView Thread
Guess what, the ex is wrong. (imagine that.) Most states have regulation for divorced parents that both parents must have a bed for each child after toddler age. They can share the same room as a blood brother or sister, or same sex non-blood child, but they can't share the room with an oppsite sex non-blood child. Check the divorce papers, then CPS/Family services. If both of those options are a negative, then go back to court and get restraining order for child protection.
Don't know or care about the reasons for the divorce, but protecting the children are always number one. My ex couldn't even have visitations until she had a bed, not a couch, for my son. I know my son, at 10 he wasn't to interested in girls. but by 11 he was looking and wondering. At 12, I knew he wasn't going to sleep in the same bed as my ex's bf grand daughter of 13. I made that point very clear to ex.
The difference between a father and a dad: Father is the sperm donor. Dad is the one that there raising and loving the child.
A fiancee means your expecting to marry this woman. If your fiancee is not living with you, you can voice your opinion, but you really can not do anything. Advise your fiancee that if she want to get married, you will not support this situtation. If she and the daughter are living with you and it's your house your options are different. You can state this will not happen any more or she has to find another place to live. Advise them you don't want to support her and her bf and their children. If your living in her house, your options are to stay or go. Never ask a parent to pick a child over a significant other. The S.O should lose every time. My ex-wife found out she could be replaced. She has a daughter and she let her daughter have overnite guest at 17. I disapproved, but it did no good. One of many reasons I got out of the marriage. I married her mother when the girl was 1.5 years old. She's now 25 years old. You may lose your gf, due to your decisions. What are you comfortable with?View Thread
This your niece and she's ADHD? Is she on meds? Has her mom talked to the mental health doctor about these problems? Have you talked to her mom about this? I know these are questions you have already been asking, but you didn't state them. Have her parents had her IQ tested? I'm not saying she's dumb, but I know some of high IQ people are so smart they are dumb about common items. I had a buddy in the service who was a complete brain and artist, but couldn't remember to wipe his butt. Literally. The service gave him a general discharge. Enforce restrictions on her to visit. Shaving is secondary, but has to bathe. I know you love your niece, but work on her mother also. She's your sister/in-law and see if there is anything you can do to help. One of the worst thing that could happen is a UTI or PID. If she's being raised by just a father, you might want really step in. He may not have a clue. Good LuckView Thread
Talk to your daughter (after you go have a blow up somewhere else) about your expectations of her and her behavior. Ask her what her goals in life are and then crush them with a baby. You and I were both 14. We know what teens will do. Then talk to your daughter's bf and parents. Explain to them your expectations of the boy's behavior and the conquinces (I know it's not spelled right) of these actions. I'm sure they are not ready to be grandparents and neither are you. Then get her a home pregnacy test and have her take it. Explain to her what will happen if she becomes pregnant.I'm sure a month of grounding and extremely supervised "dates" will help curb some of the urges. If this doesn't help try a project of caring for a baby for a weekend. All weekend with no help. P.S. Don't forget about the STD talk and explain in detail how it could even kill them.View Thread