I'd love your opinions. My 12 year old daughter and 9 year old son live with their mom in primary custody. My relationship with my ex is typically contentious. The issue I'm having today is that I want to have my kids come stay with me for the summer, something in my legal right to do. My ex's first comment on the phone was "do the kids want to do that?" I said I hadn't asked and I really don't think they get to decide in this issue.
My ex said "yes they do," and went on to say that the kids don't like living with me and my "new family" (I've remarried, live in another state and have another child and step-child.) About an hour later I receive a text from my daughter saying that she HATES being at my home and doesn't want to be away from her mom or friends this summer. Obviously the waters have been muddied by my ex, because the kids always seem to have a great time with us when they stay here during the summer.
Should I allow my daughter to decide this or am I right in thinking I get to make this choice?
Also, I worry that the kids will be generally left alone unsupervised this summer because their mom works and doesn't set-up any child care.
Thank you for the response, but it is a bit misguided and a bit judgy since you don't know the full scope of my situation.
I see my kids for 3 days every other weekend, call them every night, and am a very stable situation in their lives. I've had a court-ordered family psychologist testify that my situation is in fact more stable than their current home life.
But these details -- like your response -- are hardly pertinent to the question I asked. Thanks again for your time.
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