Djk-There are some instances and some people that Ritalin might be the appropriate medication. It needs to be an informed decision between the parents, the child, and the physician.
I do urge caution whenever a medication is suggested or prescribed and encourage people to find the information regarding it by talking to the doctor and asking questions about why this medication was chosen and not another as well as if there are alternatives. But also by using internet resources that list the side effects and indications for the medication like our Drugs and Treatments library. User reviews can be found there as well.View Thread
Is there a reason you didn't take the visitation issue to court when he was seven?
She won't be able to put him in a special needs school without a confirming diagnosis from a professional.
It could be any number of things and first up I would get both a lawyer to help get relevant medical issues, a guardian ad litem for your son, and appropriate medical exams for the range of issues he is having to determine whether there is something underlying his issues like Aspergers or ADD and appropriate investigation into his home situation and counseling to help him deal with those issues as well as the anger/depression/violence and school problems.View Thread
It sounds like time for you to get your step-son some help. First rule out learning disabilities that can make completing a chore difficult, if not impossible. The "caring nothing" could be a cover up for caring a lot but being frustrated by his inability.
Then get him into some appropriate therapy to address the issues that he is having as part of both dealing with his issues surrounding his mother, having a step-mother and the adjustments he has had to make in his life.
I also would highly, highly recommend family therapy for everyone. If that isn't possible, just someone for you to talk to and get help dealing with your feelings and support and ideas on dealing with these children.View Thread