My ex made a rule that the children all had to play an instrument because he is all about the research with regard to academic achievement and avoidance of negative teen health behaviors linked to participation in music.
My son took up flute--mostly to avoid PE in middle school. He hates listening to music and we were surprised he kept playing flute into high school--where avoiding PE with band isn't possible. He enjoys playing the flute and has become surprisingly good. No, he isn't a prodigy or even the best in the band but he does well with it.
My daughter took up trombone because of the rule. The first year she loved it. The second year she was at a new school with a bad band program and she started to hate it. She successfully negotiated out of it after that by using her other commitments (intensive theater classes) as an excuse. The angst about this and negotiating it seemed far more extreme than it should have to be for anyone.
My youngest sometimes claims she will play the piccolo but since no one will let a child start with piccolo--she has successfully avoided the band requirement.
If she is adamantly against it, why not give her a list of options for other types of brain stimulating types of activities-chess for example?View Thread
First thing (in my opinion as a parent) they need to do is get him back into counseling. They also need some counseling. The physical aggression is not acceptable. He needs anger management treatment and also some professional input into his behavior issues as well as his food issues. The parents need to know how to set boundaries and provide a safe household for all.
Second thing, I would recommend is for the entire family to rework their approach to food. No one can go wrong eating a healthy diet and keeping the junk out of the house.
Don't let them use the excuse that the younger brother shouldn't be "punished" with the same foods served for the other child or that the other family members deserve a treat. It just causes the same cycle--boy with medical problem resents the other family members who get to eat off his plan and the rest of the family risks the same health conditions.
I would encourage them to lead a more active lifestyle in general. If video games are the way to his heart--take the xbox away and only get ones that require activity. Make weekend activities mandatory and active--choose roller skating or nature walks over movies and meals out.
With high blood sugar, the family can no longer just let it go because it isn't worth the aggravation.View Thread
Is there a particular reason you want him not to see her? Could you rework it so that she is invited over for "family" time type of activities? I found that having the children my kids were dating over for family meals, family game time, and family outings usually weeded out the less wholesome dates faster than any censure on my part.View Thread
Her calorie needs aren't quite as important as her nutrition needs at 12 and those are critical for girls her age. I suspect 1600 would be their recommendation.
I encourage you to look at the USDA MyPyramid Plan for the types of foods and servings of each she should have. Their calculator is very good for kids nutrition information. (US Government site-not in control of their content)
It also could be an undiagnosed learning disorder. My son is very bright but struggled with school reading-but liked being read to and audio books. He could read. He just still struggled and it started to cause some issues with other areas of school work as he got older. We ended up getting him tested-off the charts verbal ability but his brain just doesn't do written quite the same most people do. This helped us all a lot in figuring out how to help my son.View Thread