I have a wonderful 11 (almost 12) year old son. He just started middle school this year. He does have a cell phone, mainly so we can get in touch with him when he is outside. Anyway, since he started middle school he has had a few "girlfriends." I know some of you may object but I occasionally look at his text messages. With the last girl and this newest girl I have found some seriously inappropriate texts. The first girl was attempting to incite a fight between my son and another boy. The second (and current) girl is WAY more concerning. She sent him a message saying she wanted them to "make out" and she wanted him to "kiss her neck and boobs."!!!! I was floored! They are only 11!!!! When I check for my son's responses to these things he kind of just blows them off without saying too much.
I have tried talking to him and explaining it's a lot easier to say things via text message that you would normally never say. I also remind him he is only 11. This time I told him if he gets messages that he knows are inappropriate then he needs to let those people know not to send them or he will be losing his texting privileges. I just feel kinda bad doing that because he isn't the one initiating these things.
Anyone else out there had this experience and if so, how did you handle this?View Thread
I agree with all of you. My son believes that we have access to all his text messages, so that is good. My main concern is these girls. I just can't believe the things they text! They are only 11!!! I thought about talking to her mother but I'm not sure that is the right thing to do. I also don't want to "punish" my son by taking the texting away since he really hasn't done anything wrong.
I guess there really is not concrete answer to this problem. I can't believe I am dealing with this already View Thread