First of all, don't take it personally! You can't feel bad or guilty and help your dog at the same time. He can feel that negative energy and it may contribute to his bad attitude. It's hard not to associate human emotions with dogs, but he's not like the older brother that tells his mom to take the baby back to the hospital. All he knows is there's a new member of the pack and this new member doesn't know the rules yet, so he's taking it upon himself to teach them. That is completely normal, though he may be a little too aggressive when he does it. In which case, you need to be the one who sets the rules and enforces them. Right now, your chihuahua is the king of the house and everyone in it lives under his rule. He's the enforcer. Dogs are usually ill-suited to lead the house, so he's not very good at it and is getting aggressive toward you as well. He needs to know you are in charge. You have to take back control- and he won't take it personally either. You'll still love him and he'll still know it, but he has to listen to you. Disagree whenever he shows aggression- whether that's with a noise, a snap of your fingers...etc. Don't back down from your dog, follow through, and set boundaries. Always be calm when you do this, but not a pushover. See if obedience works, using treats or whatever he likes. I hope that helps a bit. There are a few discussions like this that have more suggestions too. Good luck!View Thread
That's EXACTLY what I'm talking about, haha. When they stalk each other, there's no clearance between the floor and their skin. Instead of a tuck up, they look square. Totally disppears when my boy rolls over for belly rubs though. The girl isn't quite as much of an attention hog, but I'm sure it's the same for her.View Thread
As a first time cat owner, I was terrified I was making my kittens fat at only 6 months old, then my vet told me they were both in their ideal weight range. I had mistaken the skin folds under their legs for fat. I read that they could be to accomodate for how flexible cats were or something... I don't know. Almost one year old now, those flaps of skin on my cats still freak me out. It's only when they stretch out that I realize they're both lean, healthy and not close to overweight. They have hips and I can feel their ribs and spine easily enough. Both are very active- destructively so- and never eat all of what I put out for them.
I'm just curious how many cats have these skin flaps? Are they genetic or anything? Can these flaps become fat storage pockets like I thought they were, or does fat pop up on the belly first? The two cats I knew growing up didn't have them, and neither did the two I rescued before mine. My boy and girl are litter mates, so genetics would make sense.
Does your cat have them? I'm just curious how prevalent it is.View Thread
It may be that your dog is used to being in charge and he is teaching the puppy his rules, or about personal space. It isn't about "liking" or "not liking" her. The chihuahua may come at him in a completely different way and so he treats her differently. If you don't like the way your dog is teaching the puppy rules, or the rules he is teaching, then give him a stern "no" or snap your fingers or whatever you do to snap him out of it- Make sure you are calm and follow through. Yelling and being angry or scared won't help. Also make sure you are setting up the same rules you have for the dog on the puppy. Just because she's cute and tiny doesn't mean she can't have rules. Puppies can be overwhelming and obnoxious to older dogs because of their high energy and because they're still learning. His growling could be his way of letting her know she needs to calm down or respect his space.
Because your dog was there first, make sure you honor that social order. Your dog first, then the puppy when it comes to feeding, play or affection. This will help the puppy learn respect. Also praise your dog when he's having a good interaction with the puppy. Let him see her as a good thing and that you have accepted her. Take them on walks together- walks where they are at your side and paying attention to you. Teach them obedience, probably seperately at first, and then together. Having an older dog help raise the puppy is a fantastic experience, just make sure that you are always in charge and you are the one setting the rules.
If this becomes too stressful for your dog and you can't make it work, either consider a behaviorist or giving the puppy away. Otherwise it's not fair to your dog.
I don't see any reputable breeder/resue giving this man an animal. No one would look at his application and go, "Yes, I think I'd trust this man in the same house with a dog. It says here he used to have multiple dogs, and if they didn't die at his hand or by another dog, they were confiscated by federal authorities."
I don't care if his kids want a dog. Maybe he should have thought of that before. He should explain to them why they can't get one, and if they want the joy of a pet, they can go volunteer at shelters and rescues. He doesn't NEED a dog. Hid kids don't NEED a dog.
I've met some of his dogs. A lot of them have good lives now no thanks to him. Some have to live at Best Friends for the rest of their lives by court mandate. So they will never have a home because Vick taught them to fight, but Vick just had to wait three years to get a dog? Second chances are great. These dogs deserved one. Michael Vick does not.View Thread
My kittens started getting in some seemingly serious fights around this age as well. They are litter-mates, brother and sister. Both were already spayed/neutered and had been budding around ever since I got them. The girl also cries whenever her brother is seperated from her.
At around 6-7 months, the boy really started picking on the girl, not letting her eat, scaring her away from me, fighting her off his favorite perch. It freaked me out. At a loss for how to reconcile them, I started to play with them more and tire them out with feather toys on a stick. I've concluded the boy thought the girl was his new favorite toy and playing with her was much more fun than anything else, so I had to drain him a bit of that energy with something else as the object. He would be lay-down panting sometimes he had played so hard.
Now at 9 months old, he's still a little pill to her sometimes, like a typical older brother, but he has backed off significantly, and I'm not afraid that he's ever actually trying to harm her. She gained a lot more confidence through playing as well(she's faster and has more stamina than him) and has let him know his boundaries, whereas before, she would helplessly run away. They cuddle together all the time still and have gotten into terrible trouble together, finding out how to push over a heavy full set of drawers...little mutants. How I love them!
They also both hiss when they play with toys, either at the toy, or at each other when they catch it. It scared me at first, but that's just how they play. She will also hiss at her brother if he's playing too rough, which is a healthy warning that he has to learn to listen to.
Pay attention to body language, ears, whiskers, fur and tail to figure out if they are really fighting or just playing rough.
I'm guessing being spayed and the big weird cones probably has something to do with your kittens hissing. They like to hide when they're hurt and they probably feel vulnerable or something. I'm also convinced there is some kind of kitten puberty around that age where they figure out who's the boss. Give it time. As soon as they're healed and able, see how some good exhausting play sessions leave them. I knew I could do this with dogs, but was pretty amazed at how well it works with my kittens.
If your kittens really are hurting each other, I would consider getting some more professional help from a behavioralist. Hope all goes well! Do not despair!!View Thread
I can't offer great advice, as it was not my own cat who went through this, but my best friend's cat, Eddy. I grew up with him like he was my own cat. He had a very bad eye infection and the thing swelled up and bulged from his head. Her dad was a vet and performed the surgery himself to remove the eye.
Eddy, who had been an onery old guy, was actually happier afterwards, becoming more affectionate and less snappy. I think the eye had been bothering him for some time and finally having it out was a huge relief. He was able to get around like he always could, though he had some close scrapes with the wall at first. Overall, you would never guess he was a one-eyed cat! He lived a long life afterwards and was happy and better than ever. Animals adapt very well to things like this. They are quite amazing.
Good luck with your cat! I hope all goes well!!View Thread
I have a few stories. Rescuing animals just makes my life so much more enjoyable. Especially when I couldn't give them a home myself, I volunteered and always tried to help out an animal where I could.
Charlie was- as far as we could tell- a pure bred Russian blue, or very high content, and there she was, a 3 month old kitten wandering out in the cold. She had all the characteristics of a blue, and remains a total independent thinker to this day. We were both away at school at the time and after harboring the little fugitive in our apartment...against certain lease agreements- we drove home for Thanksgiving-with the cat, for 12 hours, in the car, and left Charlie with my friend's family where she is now almost 2 years old and a wonderful part of their lives and the source of much entertainment. As I saw on facebook the other day, in a post by her mother; "I was holding Charlie and my son summed up her personality perfectly. "Aww, the cat is tolerating your affection!"
I lived very close to Best Friends Animal Sanctuary and volunteered there often. On the way one day, lo and behold, I found a 4 month old black and white great dane/hound/pit? puppy laying on the side of the road in an area where people often dumped their dogs. She was covered in dirt and had overgrown nails and was skinny. I took her in to the sanctuary with me and watched her grow up every time I went back. She was a favorite in the puppy building, not afraid of anything. It wasn't long before little- then huge- Easter(so named by the sanctuary for the day I found her) got a forever home!
Now that I'm able to give a forever home myself, I have adopted my Mac and Lily, brother and sister, who were found at only a few weeks old, alone, behind a shed in the rain. They are cuddly, intelligent, and the funnest little guys to have around. As soon as my yard is bigger than a cardboard box, I also hope to rescue a very large dog.View Thread
I had a smiliar experience to FLKittez. I was gone all last week with my family and needed to board my two kittens(8 mo.). I contacted the rescue I got them from and she recommended a cats only boarding facility where the owners do pet grooming, for both dogs and cats, but board only felines in their spacious downstairs.
They were so great! My two kittens had a big room all to themselves full of climbing trees and shelves and beds, and toys. There was also a chair in there which the employees would sit in and visit with them every day, playing with them, petting them. They constantly played relaxing music in their room so there was always noise, and I left one of my blankets with them so they could have something that smelled familiar.
They also sent me updates every day and told me how they were adjusting. One of my kittens is fairly skittish, but with her brother there and all the toys, and especially the bird feeder outside her window(which she loved!), she settled in just fine. My cats only have me and each other 24/7 as well, and are wary of new people, so it was great to hear how my boy was purring for the workers and my girl finally let them pet her toward the end.
When I picked them up, my girl held a grudge against me for about 20 minutes(which is common for her when I leave her), but my boy was immediately reaching up to me to be held and has been cuddling with me ever since.
And as an added bonus, the place wasn't very expensive either! My cousin pays me the same rate when I watch her dog for the week.
Look around for a place like that and your cats should do very well.View Thread