I have had both tests. In 95 I lost a baby and had to have a D&C They did tests on the fetus and said he had downs. When I got pregnant again in 96 I had the amnio everything came out fine. Fast forward to 2010. I got remarried. We decided to have a baby. We lost the baby Nov. 2010. We tried again. On April 8th I had a CVS done. On April 15 while in between school bus runs (I'm a special needs driver) I got the phone call that would change my life. My genetics doctor told me she wanted to see my husband and me ASAP to discuss options. She told me over the phone my baby boy down We were devasted and I did some posting on here and on coping with loss that go's into great detail what I went through. We choose to terminate. My 14yr has an unspeciefied muscle disease that was possibly caused by being exposed to a virus while pregnant with him. I also deal with special needs kids on a daily basis and knew I couldn't handle it. I had one person on here who tried to give me a guilt trip for terminating because she went through her pregnancy and kept the baby. It's not anyone's business on here to try to guilt you into making a decision they think you should. It's your's and your spouse decision to make that type of decision. My husband agreed with what we choose. He knew he couldn't handle it. I have a cousin who didn't get to make a choice. Her daughter who we adore has severe health issues nothing to do with downs. I watch the many times she had to wait and see if the child would survive the night. The daily stress! The child just turned 10 but the disease is so rare she is not expected to live past her 20's if she makes it that far. I see kids with downs today and get sad and cry. But I also know I made the right choice for me! Time will slowly heal my heart. We have since did more genetic couseling. I have something going on with my eggs that is rare. Your eggs are formed while your becoming a fetus. I have some good eggs which is my 19yr & 14yr. Then I have eggs that are called mosiac and through out random genes. No way to tell which ones are good or bad untill they are fertilized. It's like playing Russian Roulette for me. We have decided not to try anymore. Currently I am researching birthcontrol options because there are so many new ones. We are trying to prevent pregnancy with condoms till I choose. Not liking the two types the doctors told me about both are putting what looks like metal into my private parts. Anyways I came on here to lurk because in the heat of passion we didn't grab the condom and I still have been tracking ovulation patterns through an ap there is a slight chance I was slightly fertile that night for a girl if if also believe the yahoo calender. I stumbled across your post and wanted to try to at least help you while I freak out on our moment of weakness.View Thread
You have the nerve to call me selfish! I don't think I was. This effected everyone in my family. Years down the road I'm supposed to force my older kids to become fulltime care givers to their brother because I choose to have another child with my new husband. I have a brother in law with it in his family. The cousins parents are dead! My brother in laws parents are now the care givers and they are having health issues. Now his parents want him and my sister to sign papers to become fulltime caregivers when the brother in laws parents can no longer. They can't afford to be a one income family either or they loose their house. Their two kids will not get to go to college either because now only one parent would get to work. Trish is also violent since her parents passed several years ago. She doesn't understand why they are gone. My brother in law and sister never asked to be put in this position. The group homes here are crap and I see the abuse that go's on and poor Trish may end up in one. My husband uncle has a mental illness and is in one. He comes with his wife who also has mental issues for visits and to sometimes see the shape their in and how staff treats them. And try a different route who made you judge and jury? We have genetics people here to advise us because of the health issues. Adoption is out and foster parenting! Again where I live the kids up for adoption come from crack whores who fried there kids brains doing drugs while pregnant. Then as the child grows they end up with all kinds of severe behavior problems. Most of the kids I drive didn't have to be special needs. They are this way due to mom's drugs and drinking habits. When was the last time you had a 5th grad er trie to stab you with a pencil because he didn't get his way and has all kinds of anger? His mom made him that way due to drugs and now other people try to raise him but he's only a pay check to them! If I can't handle a child with downs then I know I should not adopt any of these kids because I can't handle the seve behavior problems they will have. I still have hope for another child but we have not decided for sure if we will try again. If we do then again I will do the genetic testing. Our insurance will not cover IVF type stuff I looked into it. It was one way around not repeating this.View Thread
You are lucky your child doesn't have any major heart problems. But besides being a bus driver I also know several families who have downs members. My brother in laws family for one. I know the stress this would put on our entire family. And being older who takes care of the child after my husband and I are no longer? It's not fair to force this on my two older son's or my step-son. Where I live they advertise for foster parents always making sure people know they get paid. Sorry but around here these kids are treated like crap they are just in homes for the money. I don't think it's fair to these kids who are put in these types of homes. I terminated because I know I can't handle 24hr a day 7days a week and never getting a break from dealing with the possible severe problems this child could have had. Also it would mean someone quits there job to stay home full time and end up loosing our house because it would be hard on one pay check. My area places here you can't find anyone willing to do childcare for a special needs infant. Yes I do see how love able they can be but how happy is any child when they spend most of their life in a hospital due to health problems. Again you are lucky not to have the other serious health issues.View Thread
The test reults from the CVS came back yeasterday. My baby has downs syndrome. I can't sleep or think. I have chest pains. I just want this to be a bad dream. I'm selfish I can't go through with this pregnancy anymore. I can't raise a child with downs. I'm a special needs bus driver and I deal with them all the time. There are different degrees to it. The test can't tell how severe it will be. 40% of downs kids have heart problems they are more suseptible to leaukemia. I can't deal with this. I'm sorry to ramble and not spell or make since but I can't even think straight since I found out. I can't give the baby up for adoption. Alot of there kids if they are real bad get put in foster care and group homes. I see how first hand they are treated like crap. No one hugs them or treats them with repsect when they are in these hell holes. I can't do that to a child. I have to terminate this but the doctor can't get me in till next Friday. I think I'm going to loose my mind waiting till then. I just want to make this go away so I can grieve and move on. I can't handle dragging this on till then. My head hurts so much! I don't know why God is punishing me! The baby in 95 the heart stopped beating and my body didn't reject him. I had to have a D&C and they did genetic testing on the remains. He would have had downs. It was better that time because he was gone before I knew there were problems. The genetic couselor says both times it was spontanoues. No one in my family has it. The 95 was with my exhub so I figured my new hub and I had better chances of a healthy baby. I guess I must be the problem! Tomorrow was supposed to be my b-day and I don't want to see or talk to anyone. I just want everyone to leave me alone. I'm going to pray that God takes my baby now because I can't wait till Friday for the doctors to help.View Thread
Not sure if I'm posting in the right spot. Ann 37yr birthday April 17th. I have two sons a 19yr and 14yr from 1st marriage. Step-son 17yr from current marriage. Hubby is 37 we just married Sept.09. I had misscarriage in Oct.95 and one Nov.10. Pregnant and due Oct.15, 2011.View Thread
I had an amnio in 96. Alot has changed in test since then. I had one after I lost a baby in 95. I had to have a D&C and Dr. said he had trisomy. I lost a baby in Nov. at 10 wk and now I pregnang again I will be 11wk Sat. I have a CVS scheduled April 8th. Any thoughts on test? Dr. says there are some risks but they do so many without any problems. How long for test results? I forgot to ask.View Thread
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