Hi! You asked for opinions, so here is mine! If you have decided that you want a baby with DH then you need to convince him that it really isn't that risky to have a child at 37- It isn't! Fertility doens't drmatically delcine until you reach your 40s but even then many women have healthy pregancies and babies.
If your DH is the type to respond to cold hard facts, print him articles about the issue ( include statistics!). Have him talk to your gynecologist about it.
I have 2 children, a boy and a girl. I had my son one month before turning 39 and my daughter at 40. They are both healthy. DH and I had worries with both children because of our ages (he's 2 years older than me) so I had amnios with both because we needed to know. There are less invasive tests that will help ease your mind as well. You can also get a CVS in the frist trimester so that if you aren't prepared to handle a DS baby, you know as early as possible.
Also, if you want girls, there are no guarantees but you can research on the interenet and find out easy ways to try to tip the odds for one sex over the other in your favor. DH & I wanted 2 and would have been happy with whatever healthy baby we got, but we really wanted a boy, then a girl and that's what we got. All we did was get an ovulation tracking strips ( i used ANSWER) and changed our diet a little to make things moree favorable for one sex. We obviously don't know if it worrked, but we have what we wanted.
I hope your Valentine's Day wasn't all bad. Don't be disappointed because your DH has concerns- those very traits will likely make him a good father.
Glad to hear things are better and the baby is ok! This will give you good practice in staying calm with all of the scary, heart pounding things that occur with newborns, infants, toddlers, pre-schoolers...!
I had several episodes of unexplained bleeding when pregnant with my first child at 38. It continued almost the entire pregnancy and the doctors never had an explanation for it. I got extra ultrasounds, they checked cervical length etc. but nothing was wrong. I just had periodic episodes of bleeding. I was only put on bedrest once- for a day.
The good news- my son is now 4 1/2 years old, healthy and happy! And I had no bleeding with #2 who is now 3 years old!
Sending you Sticky vibes and calming vibes- its terrfying. I freaked out every time it happened, but I just kept going to L& D to get checked.View Thread
I won't say if itworks or not, but I had a boy first ( 1 month before age 39) and then a girl 18 months later at age 40, but I would recommend reading internet articles about Ph levels affecting pregnancy. Also about the Ph levels of certain foods.
The general theory is that male sperm is fast but fragile and female sperm are hardier but travel slower. One way to get a girl involves making the environment girl sperm friendly by adjusting the Ph levels and then having sex farther from the date of ovulation (but before ovulation). For boys you make the environment boy friendly and have sex close to ( but still before) ovulation.
All DH & I did was alter our diet based upon which sex we were trying for ( I don't think we started more than a month or two before TTC and we really only did it with dinner). I also tracked ovulation- with a drugstore kit called Answer, costing less than $20 a month. With the kit, we got pregnant the first try with DS (and this was after waiting one month after going off the pill) and with DD, the first month we got in a good try ( DS inadvertently(or purposely??) thwarted our first attempt at #2.)
I don't know if it really works or not or if it was just luck of the draw. But given our ages when we started TTC, I was 38 and DH was 40, we thought it was worth a try because it was easy and didn't take much effort. We were also sure that we only wanted two and that if our scheme didn't work, we'd be happy with two of the same gender, we really just wnated our children to have a sibling. My kids are now 4 and 2 1/2.
Hi! I am sure you are not the only person to feel this way. It can certainly be a shock when life throws you a curveball that will completely change your life, so I think your feelings are pretty normal.
I got pregnant for the first time at 38 ( DS was born one month before I turned 39 and I got pregnant with DD at 39. She was born when I was 40.I wasn't floored by it because I hadn't had kids before. I'd never even thought of having kids until I married my DH at nearly 37.
If after the shock wears off, you decide that starting again is not such a bad idea- I too share your worry about being a senior citizen when my kids reach adulthood!- know that being 39 isn't too old to have a baby. I've never smoked, but I drink and definitely needed to lose a few pounds before I had my kids. But both pregnancies were relatively easy with uncomplicated deliveries, so it can be done. And now I have 2 healthy kids, one nearly 4 and one almot 2 1/2.
And if it's too much for you, that's your choice too.
Hi ladies! My youngest is almost 2 1/2 and I only lurkeed when rpregnat with her, but I still check in to see how the AMAs are doing. Thsi bBoard was great and so active when I was preggo. Hopefully it picks up agian soon. I found it to be so helpful ofr all of my mmommy to be anxieties.
to answer Jeannie's questions- I am nearly 30 months post partum (DD was born 12/23/08) with no plans to do it again ( I have 2 and will be 43 in August). I am feeling fine today- my allergy medicine is apprently FINALLY kicking in.This year has been awful! When I was pregent with both kids I had such nice allergy seasons (springs summers and falls!)- I hardly ever sneezed. Was that a perk of being preggo??
Sadly, since both pregnancies, my feet still seem to swell slightly when the weather suddenly gets hot- like it did here this week! grrrr...
I don't know if Nichole had her baby, but I too am looking for a story!
Rachel- good luck sharing your happy news at work! Rest now because having a newborn and a toddler will not be the time to get more rest!
I like to check in because I loved this board when I was pregnant- though I was mostly a lurker too chicken to post!
It's a shame that there is so much less traffic here now. Sadly I am not willing to do much about it . 2 is my limit but I like reading about other people's experiences as old mom's ( as my mom calls it!)
Maybe spring will get more people in the procreating mood and liven the Baord up!
Hopefully the next couple of weeks will go by fast for you! View Thread