This sounds like me too. I am recently remarried. My husband is 40, with no children of his own. He is a healthy weight but smokes heavily and has high blood pressure. I am 35 with a 12 year old and 6 year old. We are trying to have another baby and have been trying for 6 months. Before I always thought that I couldn't even talk on the phone with a man without getting pregnant....it seemed that my previous pregnancies, which were unplanned, the second when I was on the pill, came at times that were difficult. It seems so strange now that I have a great companion, who is a loving father to my children and we are financially secure, we would be having difficulties. Even though our age puts us at risk, I am an RN, and have studied women's health for advanced practice. Even though yes, there is a risk for higher complications and defects, that pertains mostly to woman who are having their first child after the age of 35, not for woman who would be having subsequent pregnancies after 35. That is reassuring.View Thread