Congrats! It's so exciting to watch them grow and move. I was shocked at the difference between 7 and 8 weeks. I have a whole photo album of our ultrasound pics with some others scattered in. I had stickers for my belly that said how many weeks I was...but I didn't get to use half of them. I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy!View Thread
Congratulations to both of you!! It's so exciting after all the effort to get pregnant. My beta's were 400 (27 days) and 950 (48 hours later) and I had two, but one was a blighted ovum. You really can't read into the numbers. I had a really rough time, but it's totally worth it in the end. Now that my LO has figured out social smiling there's nothing better than looking at her and she busts out a big grin!View Thread
Thanks! We think she's perfect, but we're a little biased. She gets to meet her pediatrician for the first time this week. I met her while our LO was in the nicu. She was due 10 days before I was and delivered before we escaped the nicu. I really liked her when I met her and the NP we've been seeing instead has been great even with all my silly phone calls. We went from 69 days of 24/7 doctors and nurses to one visit then 2 months before our next appointment.
We thought we only wanted one to begin with. It took injectibles to get pregnant, she had a vanishing twin, then I was so sick the whole time I lost 12 pounds and held there even as my belly grew...though it never got very big. Add all the complications with the delivery and it would be horribly selfish to try again knowing it could all happen again and I wouldn't be able to care for our little princess and she could possibly lose me. We've discussed that if we really feel the need for another in a few years we'll talk about adoption. For now we're just thrilled to have our little girl and enjoying every minute. She has everyone wrapped around her little finger.View Thread
LOL My sister's husband went and bought all new windows the first time they found out she was pregnant...so the house wasn't drafty for the baby. She miscarried that one. I forget what crazy thing he did the second time. I don't remember my hubby doing anything crazy.
My bosses let me take 16 weeks off because of the preemie delivery and all my complications. I was grateful because I'd been off 10 weeks when she came home from the nicu and couldn't imagine going back to work 2 weeks later. I'm working 2 days a week now and found a licensed in-home daycare that was willing to keep her 2 days knowing I'll go back to full time later. My boss agreed to 6-12 months part time, so later this year I think I'll add one day a week every few months until I'm FT again. The woman keeping her is already so in love with her she told me I could go back to full time anytime I want. I think it's a nice balance giving me more time at home with my baby I worked so hard for, but also bringing in money, using my hard earned education, and getting some adult time. We had worked hard to straighten out our finances before we started TTC, not knowing it would be so difficult. We could scrape by with me not working, but it would be painful so PT will work for a while and we've been able to build a healthy savings account to fall back on if we need to. It's a hard decision to find what will work for you.
We were able to get mostly hand-me-down baby gear so that saved a ton of money and people keep giving us clothes and other items. Diapers are our biggest expense now and I'm shopping sales and using coupons. DH is grossed out by cloth or I'd consider that. Since she was a preemie I had to start pumping and she's never done well breastfeeding so I keep pumping. We're fortifying my milk with formula, but it's very little so a can lasts 3 weeks. I added up and it would cost us about $30 a week if she was all formula, partially because the preemie formula is extra expensive. I keep reminding myself of this as I get tired of pumping. Breastmilk is better for her anyway, but pumping is a such a pain! I figure since I'm not earning as much I can put some extra effort into saving money where I can.View Thread
I'm so glad your boys are doing well! I'm with you how hard it is to see others not appreciate their kids. I even saw some of that in the nicu lounge. We wanted this little girl so bad and went through so much to have her I can't imagine treating her that way. There were so many parents that never even visited their babies! I was there every day and everyone knew me, even those that never cared for her. It was an hour drive and exhausting, but what we needed to do. Our problem is going to be disciplining her when she gets older. I ended up with severe pre-e at 28 weeks and in the hospital. Initially they told me I'd be there 4-6 more weeks until I delivered. The goal was to make it to 34 weeks then induce. 3 days later the blood flow through her cord back to me started going backward between her heartbeats so they did an emergency c-section. She weighed 2 pounds even. She was on a vent for 1 day and cpap for 5, then off breathing support other than on and off a nasal canula usually on room air with a little oxygen occasionally. She actually had a pretty easy 69 day nicu stay...for a 2 pound baby. After the c-section my kidneys quit working for a few days and I had to have 3 blood transfusions. I wasn't allowed to see her for 3 days during that, then a nurse had to stay with me to visit for a few minutes. I finally went home for 2 days, then when I went back to have my staples out my incision came open and I was back in the hospital for 2 nights while they worked it out to hook me to a wound vac for about 3 weeks. We are so grateful to have come out well! People ask if she's our first and I answer only. Those that know the whole story understand why we don't want to test our luck with another. There were a few days when my husband knew he easily could have lost both of us. When I told my OB we were done he said that was a good decision.
My bosses were awesome and let me have an extra month off work and come back part time. I just started back 2 weeks ago 2 days a week and found a good licensed in-home daycare for her. The woman keeping her is already in love with her and told me I could go back to work full time anytime I want. She's such a happy easy baby, just miniature (8 pounds at 4 months). I will eventually, but for now my boss has agreed to 6-12 months of this schedule, then we'll reevaluate and I'll probably add a day every few months until I'm full time again. It's so nice to have the extra time with my little angel for now and kiss these chubby little cheeks that didn't used to be chubby at all.
Hi! I remember you. How's your little guy doing? I had my baby girl at 28 weeks with all kinds of complications on my end, but now she's 4 months and we're both doing great. It's been such a journey we're so thrilled to have her. I think the infertility and all my complications gave us a greater appreciation for her.View Thread
Thanks for the support everyone! It's been a rough road but I think I'm finally doing better. I went in Monday to have my staples removed and ended up admitted for 2 nights again. I ended up with blood clots in my scar that kept it from healing. I now have a wound vac on it and get to carry this awesome pump the size of a purse 24/7 for the next couple of weeks. Everyone keeps telling me this is the magic answer and it will heal great now.
We've decided my body isn't made to make babies and we aren't going to have another, but we are thrilled to have our sweet tiny baby girl. She's doing awesome and yesterday's nurse kept calling her a rock star because she's doing so much better than they'd expect for her size. We were able to start kangaroo care last night and that was amazing!View Thread
Thanks! Rooni, How long before you could walk standing up straight and at a normal speed? My hubby laughs at me because normally I'm walking too fast for him and he has to keep telling me to slow down, but right now he's running off and leaving me.
Also, how long did you wear a belly binder? They gave me one and it needs washed, but without it I feel like my insides are going to fall out. I don't feel like I can go without it to let it hang to dry so we're debating getting a second but hate to waste money.
Last night we went to visit and they decided to leave off her cpap to see how she does. I got to take her temperature and change her diaper, then my hubby got to lift her to help weigh her and change her bedding. It was so exciting to do something other than stare at her and to see her face without the cpap and her eyes open.View Thread
So I went to my OB on Thursday 9-20 for a growth ultrasound and checkup. She had gone from 40% percentile to 20% percentile and he didn't have a good gut feeling. He gave me the ok to go home and pack before sending me on to one of our local top notch women's hospitals to the high risk OB's. As they admitted me they started me on meds to prepare for delivery just in case and had a nicu doc talk to us. Our heads were spinning. The next morning the docs told us to plan to be here until she arrived, probably at 32-34 weeks and they wouldn't go past 34 weeks. The following afternoon the MFM doc did an ultrasound of her blood flow and was concerned about the flow through the cord. He offered options to either immediately deliver or watch carefully and deliver when it gets worse. We opted to watch it carefully. Sunday morning 9-23-12 they woke us at 5 am because of a couple of heart rate drops on the monitor. The regular ultrasound looked ok, but the cord flow one showed it had worsened. They immediately started gathering the team for my c-section. Delaney Margaret was born at 8:36 am on 9-23-12 weighing in at exactly 2 pounds and 13.5 inches long (28 weeks 5 days gestation). She is currently off the ventilator and oxygen and only using CPAP with room air. The doctors and nurses tell us she's feisty. Yesterday they started feeding her a little donated breast milk mixed with the little cholestorum I had produced. This morning I was able to send about 2ml of milk over so hopefully she'll be off donor milk soon. They are providing all nutrition through her cord IV, but they want to start her stomach practicing. I hope everyone else is doing well and has much calmer births than ours. I know the support on these boards has helped me through this journey. If someone knows the link for the PAIF grads board please send it.View Thread